Post # 1
I’m going to try to keep this short….
My friend “Rachel” called me in a pannick yesterday.
The backstory is she has been with her bf and now fiancé for a couple of years and like every other couple they have had their ups and downs. She tells me she no longer feels butterflies for him and to me, I thought that was normal and told her that sometimes that feeling wears off. She has been in a couple long term relationships and even though her last break up was pretty rough it was a while ago.. I’d say at least 7 years ago or so. She told me she is over that last ex and has dated since then. So everything seems okay right!?
Over the last year, she she got engaged, she keeps having dreams of getting married to her exes. This is probably the 3rd or 4th time she has shared it with me but I’m not sure how many times it has happened to her. Yesterday she was panicked because she thinks it means she shouldn’t marry her now fiance and her subconcious is leading her to believe shes makiing a mistake? She said she feels strngly that something may be wrong because she wakes up feeling super happy about the “impending” nuptuals and when she wakes up it feels like the dream was real. To be fair, since high school she has always had wacky dreams and tells me about them all the time.
Now, I’m no mind reader or dream interpreter but I just think 1) maybe she has a bit of cold feet and 2) maybe shes just reminiscing?
What would you tell a friend in this situation? Has this every happened to anyone else?
Post # 2
MeandMyLouboutins: This used to happen to me ALL THE TIME. I had dreams of my current fiance breaking up with me, sleeping with with other women right in front of me!! I have had some dreams where I am the cheater as well…. i would wake up in tears, they seemed so real. I still have them but way way less than I used to. I never even questioned my feelings torwards my fiance because of those dreams. I dont get butterflies when I see my FI even if he has been gone on a long trip, i still love him just as much. I would tell my friend just based on my experience that is really isnt that big of a deal, but thats just me 🙂
Post # 3
MeandMyLouboutins: Tell your friend if she thinks her “before wedding” dreams are weird, wait till she gets pregnant.
Post # 4
I’d tell her that dreams are not something to take seriously. I saw my ex last year after not seeing him for about 4 and after seeing him I had many dreams about him for the following two weeks. I felt guilty at first, but I knew that it wasn’t some “sign from the universe” and he was still a douchebag at the end of the day. Once I quit feeling guilty the dreams went away, because I wasn’t thinking about them anymore.
P.S. I also have dreams about Benedict Cumberbatch. That doesn’t mean we’re soulmates or anything, despite how much I wish we were lol!
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
MeandMyLouboutins: We cant control our dreams. Tell her to shake it off.
Post # 6
MeandMyLouboutins: i’m not sure if it is cold feet or she lost interest.
i have known DH for almost 4 years. we’ve been married for 10 months. i still get the funny/excited feeling in the pit of my stomach when i see him, like when he comes home from work. actually, unless i am in the middle of something that i can’t stop, i usually greet him at the door when the dog starts barking and i hear the key in the lock.
i feel like i will have that feeling for a long time to come.
Post # 7
ajillity81: Funny enough I told her the butterflies go away as it has for me. Reality set in maybe after 2 years and I no longer feel that same exitement etc. Doesn’t mean I don’t love my FI but our relationship is defninitely not in the honeymoon stage anymore
Tanleggedjuliet: sidebar: where did you get your cute avatar from?
Post # 8
MeandMyLouboutins: I think everyone I know has had a dream about another person other than their current SO. Not a big deal, unless of course she is seriously doubting the wedding in the first place…while shes awake!
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