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I can be horrible about it when I'm crabby already. I know I am, and it's usually little stuff. So little, that I can't even think of an example right now. My poor Mr. M. When I know I'm in a crabby mood, I've been trying to stop myself before saying it and deciding if it's actually something warranted. Maybe rephrase it in my head before I say it. It's helped.....some.
thats fabulous that you have noticed this and are trying to rectify it, I'm sure my FI thinks I'm the only one who nags but he is just as bad, and doesn't realise.
Mr. Peng and I are both HUGE nags! It's funny because I'm a classic nagger "PUHLEEEESSSEEEE do this... do this now pleaaaasssseeeee" and Mr. Peng is more of a creative nagger "Hmm... this dog doesn't appear to be feeding herself" or "You're doign an excellent job with this whole not-showering experiment..."
Either way, we communicate via nagging. Because it's pretty equal, and we try to keep it funny, it seems to be ok. :)
Lol! It sounds like Mr. Peng is more of a passive-aggressive nagger.
I don't think I nag, but if I do, it's definitely the p-a nag with a side of whine. I'm also bad about the dirty-look-throwing.
All I know is we are equal opportunity naggers in my house, lol!
I try not to but sometimes it's really hard (like when a sink full of dirty dishes has been sitting there for 3 days straight!)...Must work on being better about that....
I can't say I never nag (I totally nag him about taking his meds and taking care of himself!) but other than that I just don't do it. Although, I don't think that is a completely accurate statement either . . . lemme essplain. I don't nag him to do things for me. If I have asked him to do something and he hasn't done it, then I just do it myself. Usually, he will come running over to help, and the task gets accomplished. So, technically, it could be p-a nagging, but I really don't do it to *make* him do something. I just have timelines in my head, and I just can't concentrate when I know something needs to get done . . . it's really just for my own piece of mind!
I used to be more of a nag but ever since we bought a house, DH is now more of a nag! Why does this look like this? When are we getting new nightstands? You don't like to dust, do you? Big nag!
lol, I don't have to nag to get the broken things fixed. I just start the chore, and when I start screwing it up royally, he will swoop in on the white horse and finish it. (Like I took apart the leaking pipe, and can't remember how to put it together again)
Then it gets fixed right and its done right away. Of course I've been banned from the tools and not allowed to mow the lawn (I hit a few things and the last time was when I carried the gas tank back up to the garage and I explained that this had to be a sign from God that I shouldn't be on a riding lawn mower...he finally believed!!)
R and I both nag each other! We've turned it into a joke. If one of us is doing it, the other just smiles at them until we both laugh. It usually works, but without coffee it sometimes makes us really angry... then again, what doesn't make a person angry without coffee?
I am definatly the nagger... I don't recall my FH really ever nagging at me, maybe when I am running late . . . he hates that.
Proverbs 27:15 "A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet.."
This challenges me! lol. no one likes a drippy faucet!
I am terrible, I nag all the time and I don't know how to stop it! I'd love to know the name of the book you read Mr. Bee.
Really the only thing I nag about is being late. Because he does it all the time. And it's seriously my biggest pet peeve because I'm ALWAYS early.
He nags me. I'm really bad about just coming home and wanting to chill out. He nags me to make dinner, do the dishes, do the laundry, straighten up, etc. I will let laundry pile up until I have nothing left to wear. And dishes until I have no more cups/plates,etc. lol, so it's good he's in my life.
It is a good thing that my FI doesn't nag me though and he knows it... I don't respond well! it makes me not want to do what ever it is even more. I had a bf that nagged me a lot about school and going to college.. he was a math nerdy computer science type and I barely passed math... It made me hate it all the more. Which is really subborn of me - I know. :\ oh well. It is all in the wording.. nagging wouldn't have to be nagging if we would just word it differently and explain how we feel rather than pushing what we want at the other person. I am guilty of this too !!!
He nags but within very reasonable amounts. I think he might say I give him dirty looks but I don't think so. I love this thread, it's hilarious.
I definitely can be a nagger, because FI just doesn't notice the things that need to be done around the house. I hate the idea that I'm nagging though, so what we've come up with is I make a list whenever I get home (or first thing on the weekend) of basic chores/errands I would like his help with. Then we both work on getting those things done and out of the way, so we can enjoy the free part of our day together. I will also give him the choice of which task he wants to do, e.g. "Do you want to clean out the litter boxes or pack our lunches for work?" I think that establishes that we are both doing work, not just me trying to get him to do things.
@Akennedy01 - My gosh, you sound like my FI! This is too much. I do nag about him getting off his butt to help me out around the house.
We both do it, but hey, if we were both doing what we were supposed to be doing, neither of us would have to nag!! 
We both nag at each other for different things. Like I make dinner and he does clean up, but if I make a mess during dinner than he nags me to clean up because he didn't make the mess.... but he ate the food, right? lol.... I try not to nag, but I usually forget when he starts nagging at me first.... like my sewing machine has been sitting out for three days, but I am working on the gifts for the BM's and he's totally not even worried about what he's getting the GM's...... haha..... I feel like we're an old married couple already!
Both my FI and I nag each other...LOL. I definitely nag him about his health and eating habits. He has peptic ulcer disease but doesn't eat like it...LOL. He nags me when I am not feeling well..."babe are you ok?" every 5 seconds doesn't help me heal faster...but it DOES make him feel like he is contributing so I let him have at it.
ugh i feel like i nag about EVERYTHING.... he's so laid back and never seems to take any initiative to do much of anything unless it's for his benefit. i hate it, and i feel like i sound like a broken record :( but alas, what's a girl to do to get her BF to clean and tidy up!
I learned last night that I might need to start nagging a little.
Mr. DG said, "I'm going to give the dog this bone from my dinner."
I said, "I don't think that's a great idea. It's a small bone and it might make him sick"
He said, "C'mon, it won't hurt him."
My response, "Whatever you think."
I didn't bother to say anything else about it. The dog got the bones and is now sick. I should have been more forceful, but nagging just isn't my style. A little nagging might be a good thing.
I'm a nag in the kitchen. It's horrible, and I cringe when I notice myself doing it. I really don't want to turn into one of THOSE women! ;)
I have to nag fiance about chores and wedding related things. He always waits until the last minute to do things, and then stresses out because there is not enough time!! We also share and office, and my desk is relatively tidy while his is covered with bills, papers, etc. He cleans it once every three months!!! When we have guests over I close the office door. He is also on bathroom duty, but doesn't do it weekly, like he is supposed to. He waits until it gets unbearably gross, then finally does it.
I try not to nag, but sometimes I nag out of frustration if he doesn't do his share. I guess its just a difference in our personalities.
@Mr. Bee--- Can you tell us the name of the book??? I DEFINITELY am interested in buying it. I have to admit that I nag my FH alot! I hate it but I try hard to control myself and try to be aware of how I say things.
I nagged more in a previous relationship and I really didn't like how it made both me and my ex bf feel. It made me feel like I was bossy and mean (I'm generally not) and it made him feel like he couldn't do anything right (not true). I think it came from a place where I knew the relationship wasn't right subconsciously but he was a nice guy so I was trying to make it work.
With my husband, I really make an effort not to nag. I'm more aware of my tone of voice and how I ask him to do something. And I've learned to not sweat the small stuff. It truly makes a difference.
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I read a book that mentioned nagging, and learned a lot (about how *not* to nag, not how to nag).
Ever since then, I've been looking for signs that I nag and/or give dirty looks (nagging's little brother). I have to admit, I'm guilty of this from time to time! I'm learning how to completely eliminate this.
How about you: do you find yourself nagging... or being nagged? What do you nag (or get nagged) about?