- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I want to start this off by saying, I really like my MIL. She is generally pleasant and really generous. However, she makes a sport out of nagging.
Frequently at family get togethers, she will ask DH if he has gone to the doctor lately and if not, that he has to go because he has all these diseases in his family and needs to make sure everything is okay. She asks him how he’s eating all the time and how he needs to eat more fruits and veggies, and how he has to cut it out with all the unhealthy stuff. Now, I think he should tell her that this is none of her business because he’s 28 years old. In fact, half the time I want to tell her that no one wants to listen to her, it’s annoying and he’s not going to do anything just because she says he should. But she’s not my mother. I think he’d rather just let things slide and not make waves. Which, whatever, she’s not my mom.
Now I am 5 months pregnant with our first child, a boy, due this summer. First of all, she periodically asks me how much weight I’ve gained, which my mom thinks is way out of line. Then the other day, she says that she doesn’t know how well I eat but that she knows he eats terrible, even if he’s doing better than he used to but that things have to improve when the baby comes to start him on the right track. And before we found out it was a boy her and the family were saying about circumcision as early as possible and DH said we weren’t going to happen and everyone freaked out. And then when we found out he was a boy, same day MIL said that I needed to at least look into it. Yeah, ok – no thanks.
So my mom’s opinion on this matter is the path of least resistence, don’t make waves and then go along with whatever I’m going to do. And I’m pretty nonconfrontational myself. However, now that I am going to have a baby, I am concerned about MIL nagging myself and particularly DH in front of DS and that it’s inappropriate. If you were or have been in a similar situation, would you tell MIL that she has to stop butting in, let DH deal with it, or do nothing?