Post # 1
Hey guys – this was the closest board I could find for this problem.
My FMIL and FSIL document just about every moment of their lives on Facebook. As I found out while going through Facebook today – this also includes pictures of my newborn niece. Naked. Front and back.
I grew up in a family where, of course, you took pictures of your kids in the bathtub. It was an innocent family photo. But, they were stuffed into photo albums, never to be seen again. Not put on the Internet, where they can easily be traced back, copied and disseminated in moments.
If someone reports that photo, I’m worried about potential legal consequences for FMIL. I can’t bring this up to her – we don’t have that kind of relationship, and I’m sure it would be seen as an insult or over-stepping because I’m not family. FI knows I’m not fond of his mother, so any discussion would likely just be interpreted as an attack on her.
It takes only one angry friend of FMIL’s to report this photo – and then there may be other legal problems to deal with afterward.
Do I send an anonymous letter? Blissfully ignore it like I’ve never seen it?
FSIL is presumably aware of this – I haven’t seen if she’s posted the same picture or not yet.
Post # 3
Baby Butt and bare chest is okay, IMO. But are we talking privates as well?
Post # 4
@CookieCreamCakes: There won’t be any legal recourse if anyone reports it. The image will be taken down, and that’s that. They’re not going to go after anyone for child pornography in a “casual” setting. If your child was set up in a questionable position, that would be one thing. Kids playing and being kids, there will be no legal recourse.
Post # 5
Ugh. Both my sister and SIL post naked pictures of their baby’s on facebook. Full frontal. I get that baby bum is cute but, I, now as an adult, would not want all my naked baby photos posted all over the internet. And these children don’t even have a say yet! I think it’s so wrong.
Post # 6
Reporting an inappropriate photo on Facebook will not lead to “potential legal consequences.” I doubt they would take it down anyway–I recently reported a truly distubing picture on fb, and they emailed to let me know there was nothing wrong with it. If you are that worried, have your fiancé say something.
Post # 7
I would report it. Why people think EVERYTHING should go on facebook is beyond me. The most naked I think a baby should be is in a diaper, and for me, this is pushing it. Maybe I seem like a prude, but it’s too easy for those involved in child porn to access people’s kids photos online.
Post # 8
@BlondeMissMolly: It depends on your jurisdiction and local laws. Parents have been arrested for posting nude photos of children or babies on social networking sites (If I remember right, the bee has some rules against external links, but a quick Google search turned up several such cases for me).
Most likely, the photo would be removed and that would be the end of it. But the idea that being questioned or even being charged is totally out of the picture isn’t true.
Post # 9
I have a little girl and I have posted pictures of her in the bath but with her “little lady bits” strategically cropped out or covered in bubbles.
Prior to having kids, I may have had a different opinion but now that I have her I see nothing wrong with a naked baby chest or even a little bum. I’m sorry but their is something so adorable about a little chubby baby booty. I love their little tooshies.
Post # 10
I’m not a fan of naked baby photos on facebook. One of FI’s coworkers had a kid a few years ago and continues to do this…I think its super weird to have naked bathtime photos of an almost-3 year old plastered over the internet.
However, since you aren’t the parent, I don’t think you really get a say in this.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I don’t get the big deal with naked baby pictures. It’s a pretty new concept not to have babies and toddlers running around naked in public after all. We only contribute to the idea that little children can be sexualized by being so afraid of their being sexualized. Now that doesn’t mean facebook has to be littered with these pictures, but geez.
Facebook will just take the pictures down. If you are that worried, OP, you can report them yourself for removal. Your FMIL will not know who reported the photos.
Post # 12
@BooRadley: humm interesting I was thinking of a baby when replying to the OP.
A 3 year old would start to seem odd (I think). I’m not sure what the cut off is in my mind. Since my LO isn’t even 6 months yet, I still have time 🙂
Post # 13
I have posted pictures of my son in his tub. You can’t see his private parts. They are just so happened to be covered by how his arms are or toys are placed in that way and the angle of the picture so you don’t see into the tub at all.
I agree with panterapeach on the cuteness of baby tooshies.
Post # 14
@CookieCreamCakes: I can almost guarantee there would be no serious legal consequences. Her daughter is aware of the pictures. Who would be pressing charges?
Post # 15
I’m fine with the naked baby photos as long as you have privacy settings on your profile. I have an acquaintance that I am not FB friends with and I see her naked baby photos all the time because someone I know will like the photo and then it will come up on my feed. I am seriously uncomfortable with that because I shouldn’t be able to see those photos and I worry about other people who can see them too since these photos aren’t private.
Post # 16
Unless they’re at a toddler age, I really dont see the big deal. Even baby shows show every single bit of the babies when they’re born.
I really just cannot understand the concept of being uncomfortable seeing a naked baby.