Post # 1
FI is going to take my name after we get married. We live in PA, which doesn’t make it easy. According to this article, it can cost up to $700; furthermore, FI has to publish ads in two newspapers, attend a hearing with a judge, and get fingerprinted. Only then can he receive a court document certifying that he changed his name.
Only a handful of states allow men to change their name after marriage as easily as women can (i.e. with the marriage license). New York is one of them. If we get married in New York, can FI just change his name that way? Or would the state of PA not recognize it? Any ideas on how to make this an easy process (that won’t cost $700 and take months to finalize)?
Post # 3
I would assume so! The only in-state change you would need would be your driver’s license… Everything else is federal! (We got married in NY)
Post # 4
@BrandNewBride: I didn’t think of it that way! 🙂
Any input from other bees?
Post # 6
Hmmm, that article’s from 2008. Are you sure the process is still the same five years later? (Wishful thinking!)
Post # 7
I would look up the information on the social security website (if it isn’t shut down right now). I actually thought that I would have to go through all of that when I got married, but turns out, all I had to do was send my marriage certificate in to the social security office to get a new card.
Post # 8
I was actually going to write a post this week about how much we’ve struggled with doing this. We’ve decided to combine our names and it has been a HUGE struggle. My DH changed his name in MD which involved: filing forms for legal name change court order (about $130), submitting notice to local newspaper, then going through and changing all his docs with the court order the way we would with our marriag license. It took about 5 months total, which could be longer.
Now, we didn’t have to do the fingerprinting or hearing in front of the judge, so yours will be even more difficult.
What we’re doing now is going to NY to get remarried because their laws are more liberal, and on your marriage license you write down what your new name(s) will be – whether one of you takes it, the other, combined, etc.
Overall, I’m happy we’re doing something that means a lot to us, but if I knew what we would have gone through I don’ think we would have done it.
Post # 9
I think part of the thing you need to consider about getting married in NY is that your state may not accept the name change if it is just on the license. I have heard of a lot of people having trouble with unorthodox names that were written on the marriage license and the state not recognizing them.
Post # 10
@mrscash: Do you have any info about the process of changing your name in NY? Do you know of any difficulties with your home state recognizing the change (as MissAsB pointed out)?