Post # 1
Anyone else not too thrilled to change their last name? I am 100% going to do it, but I am one of only two girls with my maiden name…so eventually, it’ll get lost. I’m considering changing it to my middle, but I’m on the fence. Thoughts on name changes???
Post # 3
Well… I hesitated but not for the same reasons as you… My first name sound weird with his last… I kept my maiden name as my middle one so it sounds better. And I didn’t think I’d mind, but I’m kinda glad I kept my name too. Now his name is an addition to mine and completes it, just like he is an addition to my life.
Ok, super corny, but I like to think of it this way!
Post # 4
You are reading my mind 🙂 We had this same discussion the other night. I feel like it’s a really huge deal! I’m one of 2 girls, too – and the thought of having the name lost kinda breaks my heart. I’m definitely going to change it – I can’t wait to share his name – I just feel like there must be a way to honor my maiden name. I’m leaning towards the middle name route, too… No help from me, but definitely commiseration!
Post # 5
I just had to make this decision because we got our license and you have to decide when you fill it out. I always thought I would be okay with it, but I’m just not. I will go from being the only person with my name to being one of very, very many.
Post # 6
I guess if it’s a middle name, and not a hyphenated (spelling?) last name, I can throw it in there when I want or just use my first and his last the rest of the time. My current middle name, Ann, has no significance what-so-ever, so I like the idea of my maiden as a middle and his as a last. I definitely want his, but besides being the last one to have mine, I also don’t really like his 🙂 BUT I’m old fashioned and think the names should match, especially when kids will be involved in the future.
I think I’ll do the middle name thing 🙂 I feel a little better now!
Post # 7
I’m having a similar problem, except it is my MIDDLE name that I am having a hard time with. My middle name is my mother’s maiden name and it is very unique and I love it. However, I do want to keep my maiden name as my middle name, too…can I keep both and just have two middle names? Any of you Bees who just got your marriage license have any advice?
Post # 8
I took my maiden name as my middle since my middle had no significance. Now it kinda sounds cool altogether, and I will forever continue to have my maiden name
Post # 9
i am having a hard time with losing my name, so i’m changing it in the following way:
-my first and middle names already go together pretty well (some people call me both anyway) so that will become my new first name
-my old last name becomes new middle name
-his last name becomes my new last name
this way i get to keep all my names, but not be hyphenated.
it’s the best arrangement i could come up with…
oh, and @5292010, one my best friends has had two middle names since birth, AND a hyphenated last name! i think you can definitely have two middle names.
Post # 10
@5292010 I have two middle names, my sister has two middle names, and our godsister has 3 middle names and a hyphenated last name … so I totally think it’s okay!^^
As to the OP, I’m 100% against changing my name, in part because I am one of two girls, my father was an only child, and he died a few years ago. It’s also a cultural issue – I live in my FI’s country, so to change my name to his would mean an even larger disconnect between my culture and myself. I also just feel like it was the name I was born with and the name I want to die with. If you feel a strong connection with your name, but also want to take his, then I think it would be great if you took your current last as your middle name.
Post # 11
Ugh, I’m also struggling with this. I have a not very common (here anyway) German last name that I LOVE. I’m originally from Brazil, and anyone there with my last name is part of my family. If you google my first and last name, I’m the only person with that name. FI also has a German last name, but it’s not original or as nice sounding, but I’m changing my name only so our kids will have my name too.
I’m thinking of making my middle name my last name, though that means I’ll lose my other middle names (I currently have two, both are my mother’s maiden names as it’s Brazilian tradition, though I’m not as attached to those names).
I feel that without my maiden name, I’m losing my identity! I’ve had that name for 30 years, after all! FI doens’t understand that…
To make things even more weird, FI and I have almost the same first name (think Daniel and Daniela), and we’ll both have the same last names. ACK!
Post # 12
I’m not too thrilled about changing mine either; every time I think about losing my name I get teary-eyed. I love love love my last name, it’s who I am, but his is, eh… Mine is a very unique German name and his is a borderline common one. And they sound terrible together otherwise I would hyphenate them. And I adore my middle name – it’s my great grandmom’s name and she was very special to me.
So, as the date keeps drawing nearer, I have no clue what do to. *sigh*
@ccsr: I feel like I’m losing my identity too! It’s a big part of me. And after going my whole thru life having to spell it or explain it, and even being made fun of because of it, it just doesn’t seem right to give it up.