(Closed) Name Change Advice?

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have been feeling the same way as you. We have agreed that I will hyphenate. But now I don’t really want to change my last name at all. Good luck! 

Post # 5
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1705 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree. I just think about all of the paperwork I have to fill out to get so many things changed…lol. I get exhausted just thinking about it! 

Post # 7
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1705 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@cellis428:  My wedding date is March 24…but I keep wondering if I can just put the decision off past the wedding… Lol

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@cellis428:  I know my sister didn’t decide anything for almost a year after she got married. I am seriously counting on that! But I will let you know after I do a little more research. 

Post # 10
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I did not want to drop my name either, but I don’t know if I will hyphenate it.  Can I use it as another middle name?  I know I have heard of dropping the middle name and using the last name as the middle name.  Anyways a friend of mine got married last year and she said your last name doesn’t change until you change your social security number…

Post # 11
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Wannabee

I’ve also considered the two middle names route, but my last name is super long (and wouldn’t work at all as a hyphenated last name.)

Has anyone changed their last name legally but still used their maiden name professionally?  I’ve considered doing this.

Post # 12
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I hyphenated his last name.  

At first, I didn’t even want get hyphenated.  But talking to others (with professional licenses), it is much easier.

I think I have more time to let authorities to know since I didn’t change my last name.

Post # 13
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Reviving this thread:  Just curious about those who kept their maiden names and then over a year later, decided to change to husband’s last name? 

I adamently kept my maiden name and hubby was fine with it. But we just celebrated our 1st anniversary with a luxurious trip and since I booked the hotels… everyone kept saying  “Mr. & Mrs. MyMaidenName”.  I had gotten so used to others assuming Mr. & Mrs. HisLastName informally, that it really stood out how it can be odd that I did not change my name. Hubby even mentioned that he kind of wanted me to take his name and feels now it’s too late.

Just wondering if it is still possible to change your name, even over a year after marriage? Or hyphenate? Will the “life change event” still apply for work benefits, etc if your marriage license is over a year old? Will it confuse people who already accepted that you decided to keep your maiden name??

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am in a similar situation– I got married almost 2 years ago and didn’t change my name.  (You don’t have to, and you can change your name any time you want to. I know other people who have waited; it’s not that weird…You don’t have to worry about doing it immediately!)

My maiden name is simple and easy to pronounce and spell, whereas my husband’s last name is a mouthful- people NEVER get it right on the first try and ALWAYS need you to spell it for them at least twice. It’s so annoying.

BUT…now that we’re thinking of having kids, I’m considering a change so that our family all has the same name. I really don’t think hyphenating would be a good option, just because it’s too wordy. I don’t think it’s too weird for me to keep my maiden name and have kids with his last name, but I’m still thinking maybe the united name would be better for us?

I’m thinking of doing MyFirst MyMiddle MyLast HisLast…and then maybe keeping My Last in our children’s middle names, too… Usually you can’t get people to use a name in a professional setting that isn’t really on your SS card, because they want payroll to match up so that you get your benefits…but that definitely depends on your work setting. If you have a state license (like a doctor or therapist) you really have to go by the name on your license legally, because you can’t present yourself to patients/clients with a different name.

@808mjm202 I’m not sure what you mean about the life change event still applying… You can take all benefits right away when you’re married, regardless of whether or not you changed your name. Probably when you change it later, it’s not really an event, it’s just you deciding to change your name…But I really don’t know what you mean with that question.

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