- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2007
We got married 5 months ago, and my name change process is pretty much complete now but I am really struggling with it and I’m not sure I want to stick with what I have changed it to but I don’t know if this is just getting used to it or what it is! It’s not just the different name, it is a history of emotion with my name due to my biological father & my stepdad’s (Dad to me) surnames as well. Sorry, this is long and no doubt confusing with so many changes!
To explain –
My name was changed by my Mom & Stepdad (who I call my dad) when I was a child so that my biological surname became a second middle name and my stepdad’s name became my surname.
So for example, I was born Emily Jane Smith. Smith is my biological father’s surname.
My Mom married my Stepdad when I was 3, he has raised me as his own child and I haven’t seen my biological father since he divorced my Mom when I was about 1.
My Mom & Stepdad changed my name to Emily Jane Smith Jones (Jane and Smith now middle names, Jones is Stepdad’s surname). I only used Emily Jane Jones because I refused to use biological father’s name.
When I married, I had to change my name through a lawyer because of where I was born and now live, and married. I thought about changingmy name to double barrell my surname with my hubby, but I also wanted to lose my biological father’s surname which was my second middle name. I decided not to double barrell though because I am a teacher, and it was a mouthful with our names together, and the lawyer huffed and puffed about whether or not I could drop a middle name and hypenate at the same time – it just seemed more practical not to.
So I changed my name, taking hubby’s surname, dropping Smith (biological father’s surname) and making my stepdad’s surname (Jones) a second middle name – I became Emily Jane Jones Mac
I am called Mrs Mac every day at school, so I am very used to the surname but it is making me unbelievably mad how many times my 2nd middle name or initial (stepdad’s name, which I consider my maiden) is left off everything, including by my hubby’s parents.
People seem to assume I have just changed to Emily Jane Mac and it is driving me mad, I am putting Jones on everything and still signing with that signature – which I don’t intend to change.
But I am seriously wishing I had hypenated and become Emily Jane Jones-Mac. However, having gone through the process of updating everything, paying lawyer fees, and fees to have my passport changed, documents produced, I feel like it would be really stupid to try to change it. But I really want my maiden name used.
Am I just being daft, did it take you ages to get used to your name change? I don’t know!