Name change dismay

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should en new name be?
    Laurie Ruth Serratore : (9 votes)
    24 %
    Laurie Anderson Serratore : (29 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think because your name is easy to pronounce it is perfectly fine to use both. I hypenated because of my career, and I STILL had a hard time changing.  Even though I wasn’t loosing any part of my name, just adding on, it felt like I was loosing my identity.  

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee

    Would you consider hyphenating, the 2 last names? (I didn’t change mine, at all).

     

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Have you thought of just keeping your name? And I don’t think the hyphenated name is too long though if that’s what you want to do:)

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    What we did was each take the others last name and add it as a second middle name. So I went from (first name) (middle name) (last name) to (first name) (middle name) (his last name) (my last name).

    For me, keeping my last name was important, but I still wanted to honour the fact that we are married! When I told him what I wanted to do, he decided do the same. Also this way if his traditional Grandparen’t call me Mrs. His last name, it’s not a lie!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee

    Prettysmile40:  For some women it’s their identity.  For a long time I considered my last name my identity as well.  But when it came time to getting closer to marrying my husband I realized my name didn’t make me me, I did and when I realized that it was easy for me to drop my last name completely and take my husband’s name.  I have nothing against women who keep their maiden name though, for some it’s very important.  I know my husband hoped I would take his name, and was very surprised I completely dropped off my maiden name, but I in the end had no attachments to my last name like many women I know do (not a professional, don’t have any publications in my name, etc).  

    It’s up to you on what you want to do, what does your FI think?

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Prettysmile40:  I didn’t have the same issue, but I DID change my middle name and I have to say I never ever use it. So putting Anderson as your middle will keep your name, but it won’t get in the way if that makes sense. Does your new name rhyme with your first name?

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I made my maiden name as my middle name and took his last name.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Prettysmile40:  My new name is almost the same as my old.  Think Smith to Schmidt or Baker to Barter.  I changed it completely – you really can’t hyphenate this situation.  It’s been 4 months and I’m definitely not used to it yet.  Changing was importatnt to my DH and me. 

    I only had 31 years – but it’s still a long time!

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    MsGinkgo:  I can’t even imagine hypenating similar names: Sally Smith-Schmidt or

    Betty Baker-Barker. Lol!

    Post # 12
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    9910 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    RedHeadKel:  Thankfully my first name is a completely different letter.  BUT I did get to keep my initals which makes me VERY happy.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Prettysmile40:  WooT! Mine does, too! That’s kinda why I was asking. I wasn’t sure I wanted to take it for that reason, but I embrace it now.

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