Post # 1
So I never ever questioned changing my last name when I get married, however, I admit I had seriously considered hyphenating my last name with his. (I’m extremely connected to my dad’s family and I’m the only child of my father.) My FI’s last name has changed that, his last name is the length of my current full name (first, middle & Last). I can’t imagine trying to write double the length of my name each time I sign or write my name (something I will be doing a lot of as I write reports).
So here’s my questions, I have a few friends who have changed their middle name to their old family name. This can be done two ways – two middle names or just scratching the old middle name. I happen to love my middle name (it’s so me and it’s my saint’s name from my confirmation), but inevitably this also means that I will be writing double the name again. I have to admit I’m starting to warm to the idea of just scratching my middle name and replacing it with my family name. Either method thankfully will get rid of initials that I definatley didn’t want (SAC – yuck).
How did you handle this? Are you keeping your last name, changing it, or moving last name to middle name?
Post # 3
I dropped my given middle name and replaced it with my maiden name. I wasn’t attached to it so it went out the window. But for whatever reason I didn’t want to totally let go of my original name. And, I hear you about length! My maiden last name is 7 letters and my married name is 8. Add that to my 7 letter first name and wow that’s not gonna fit in any little name boxes on forms!
Post # 4
I would have loved to do this but my married name is sooooo common like the 3rd most common last name in the US and my maiden name was really unique & Italian. it just did not sound right at all when put together. I really love my maiden name but i’ve gotten used to my married name and it grows on me. I say go for it if you like it and it flows well.
Post # 5
I can offer you only my experience but I hope this helps! I found out my family name was changed when my ancestors came from Italy. Lets say it went from “Amato” to “Adams” and I was “Adams” my whole life. When I was 28, (still single) I decided I wanted to take the original name but keep my family name I grew up with. Since then, I have been (example) “Maria Adams Amato”. Let me telll you that convincing people like airlines and banks that “Adams” was my middle name, not a hyphenated name has been HECK! My drivers license is clearly not hyphenated but credit cards, etc always put “Adams Amato” as my last name. Even the license bureau did this, as they did not believe someone could have two middle names. (Maria Louise Adams Amato) ITs not been fun! I cannot wait to be married and I will have his last name only. I just am so “over it”. lol Best to you in whatever you decide! 🙂
Post # 6
My mom did that when she got married. She uses her maiden name as her middle name, and my father’s last name as her last name. Each one has 2 syllables, so it’s very elegant as a whole 🙂 She never legally dropped her middle name, but she leaves it out when signing things.