Name change HELP!!

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: What name should he go with?
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  • Post # 3
    12900 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Sounds like his grandparents name is the only true connection for him since they are the ones that raised him, so I’d go with that if I were him.  I’m not sure if VA is different, but in MA, when you fill out the marriage licence, there is a line that says ‘name after marriage’ and you can basically fill out anything you want I think.  My husband just put the same name, and I put in his name.  I’m guessing if he wanted to change his name, he could have fill it in there and then he’d go through the same steps women do after marriage (SS, license, passport, etc) to start using it.

    Post # 4
    6457 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @leahlou:  I don’t know much about him changing his name but I do it that it can be done I’m just not sure how difficult it is. Hopefully some other bees will be able to help you out in that department!

    IMO I think he/you should change it to his grandparents name. I would want to change my name to something that is meaningful so I personally wouldn’t want to take the last name of an absentee father or a stepfather who wasn’t a good father. 

    Post # 5
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @leahlou:  Hmmm…that might depend on the state you live in (making a huge assumption that you live in the US) As far as I knew in NY you could change your name to whatever you want when you marry. But if your state doesn’t allow that it’s relatively easy to change your name. Maybe $200 including the paperwork and filing fees (in PA anyway). The only rule I know of is that you can’t change your name with intent to defraud. Meaning like you’re trying to hide from the IRS or creditors or pretend you’re related to someone you aren’t. But beware, any time you change your name your state may want to see proof at every turn, so hold on to those documents.

    ETA: lol. I can’t read. You obviously live in VA. Laughing

    Post # 6
    980 posts
    Busy bee

    He could always change to yours? If not, I voted for grandparents’ name. 

    Post # 7
    432 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I agree, he could always change to yours.  It seems far less confusing for both of you that way, and you’d still have the same result: You’d have the same last name, as would any kids you had in the future (if you’re planning on having kids).  

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