Post # 1
I’m a little torn about when to change my last name. We are getting married in September. We’d like to leave the country for our honeymoon. My passport is good under my current name till 2015, so waiting till after the honeymoon would help with paperwork or rushing to get it taken care of right after the wedding.
I also have an licensing exam for my career in October. I have to apply for it in June, turn in all my information and go through the application process. (Think if it like the Bar for lawyers). It would be a pain to have to change my name mid application process or get turned away the day of the test because my last name on the test and my license didn’t match. But even if I changed it after, I’d still have to figure out how to change my last name on my practicing license.
I guess I’m just asking if anyone else had similar issues and if so, when did you change your name? I’d feel kind of slimy not doing it right after the wedding, and having my current name for another 2-3 months after I’m already married. But it just seems like it’d be easier that way.
What would you do?
Post # 3
@MechEBee: Probably after the exam since it’s not actually that long after the wedding. You could start filling out the paperwork so you can submit it right away when you’re ready. This post made me realize that my licensing exam will probably be after my wedding too… hmm not sure what I will be doing in that case. You could start telling people your new last name and change it on facebook and stuff ahead of time haha, that’s what I would do.
Post # 4
When would you be leaving for your honeymoon? Most likely you wont be able to get your passport fast enough after the wedding for the honeymoon unless it’s over 4-6 weeks after the wedding.
When is the passport good till in 2015, if it’s Jan, you probably won’t be able to travel with it anyways, because many places require it to be valid for 3 months after your scheduled return date.
For the honeymoon, Ifi t’s going to expire earlier 2015, I’d go ahead and renew it now in your maiden name, and book the honeymoon in your maiden name. Then change it after the honeymoon. If you change it within 1 year of a renewal, you do not have to pay any fees to do it again, so no loss there.
For the exam I’d schedule it in the new name. Right after the wedding or sometime before the exam, update your SS card, then go get a new licence, and you should be set for that.
It doesnt matter if your passport and licence don’t match. I had and used an updated passport and old licence for over a year.
ETA: oh, I missed an application process. Do you have to show any proof of ID before the actual exam?
Post # 5
I’m in a similar situation. I got married in September, but have yet to change my name. By the time I’d gotten married I had already turned in my application to take the first licensing exam I need (I have to take 2). The state board already takes forever to process these thing, and I didn’t want to complicate or prolong the process by trying to change my name. We’re also going on our honeymoon in March, so I didn’t want to really deal with trying to change my passport in time.
I haven’t figured out if I’ll wait until after my second licensing exam (i.e. when I’m licensed) to change it, or to try and get it changed in between the two exams.
Post # 6
@pinkshoes: We were planning on going on the honeymoon in September. It hasn’t been scheduled yet. I’d like to do it the week after the wedding, but we’ll see. I think my passport is good till June or July in 2015, so it shouldn’t be a problem. I just know that I’d have to get a new one if I changed my name.
I don’t really have to show ID prior to the exam, but the application process is kind of rigorous. I have to disclose all information and they do background checks, interviews with references, look to see if I have any complaints filed against me. It’s a 2 step process to get licensed. I took a test ~4 years ago after college. I had to work in my field for 4 years under a licensed professional before I can take this exam. So my last name is pretty important for work validation and my prior test. I’m just worried that changing my name before the test would somehow disqualify me from taking it. I know a guy that got turned away at the door because his license was expired. He had to wait 6 months to take the next available test.
Post # 7
@vanike: Are you going by your husband’s last name socially?
Post # 8
Oh wow, hmm, i guess you couldn’t apply with your new name then because that person doesnt actually exist yet for them to background check and stuff. Sounds like you will have to apply and take the test with your maiden name then find out how to change your licence later after the wedding. … unless you want to get married on paper now just to have the new name to use.
My vote is to just wait until after the exam now… I wouldn’t want some snafu with name change to prevent being able to take the test.
Post # 9
@MechEBee: If it is similar to the state bar it lawyers, then there is no way you can change it before your exam- you will have to wait until after the exam for sure. Not with all the background checks and everything. For my bar exam, we had to have a govt issued photo id and it all had to match up. You may not get a new DL in time (a temporary isnt good enough). Thats the last thing you want to have to worry about! And when you do, I’ve heard it’s the biggest pain and more difficult than the rest of your name changes combined (At least it is for our state bar). I know a lot of attorneys who do not change their name for that reason.
Post # 10
@HeartsandSparkles: Thanks for the tip. I’m not sure how complicated it would be. I’m going for my professional engineering license. It allows me to stamp designs (cars, elevators, anything mechanical really) to be safe for the public. Unfortunatly, I don’t know any females in my career, let alone ones who have had to change their name on their license. I assume it’s somewhat similar to being a lawyer. It’s a state license. I’m thinking I might call the licensing office and see how hard it is to change my name after the exam.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I would call the licensing office. I’m a real estate agent, and am licensed through the State. Cost me $25 for a new change- this info might be on their web site.
Is this the right one for you?
Sounds like it might be easiest to wait after the exam to do everything.
Post # 12
@MechEBee: = Mechanical Engineering bee?! 😉 Love it! I’m sure there is a process- I hope it is easier for you than it is here. And good luck on your upcoming test!
Post # 13
I waited for quite a while after cause my license was about to expire and I didn’ t want to have to buy two in 6 months. It made it a problem even longer cause that semester of school I had to be my maiden name cause it was the middle of that. SO I get where you are coming from.
If you have to PAY to change something- like your License, I would try to avoid that- usually paper work isn’t to bad if you plan ahead and have all your info. But I would wait till after the honeymoon no need to go through passport hastle.
Post # 14
I would definitely wait until after your exam. We still haven’t even gotten our marriage certificate yet, so I can’t even start changing my name, now almost two weeks after the wedding! So you might be forced to wait anyway.
Post # 15
@MechEBee: I got married in July 2013 after a year long PR nightmare at work where my name became heavily associated with my project and changing my name at work would be a huge problem– I needed to keep my maiden name email address.
I changed my SSN 2 months after my wedding the day before I was putting an offer on my house. I switched my license maybe 6 weeks later when I had a day off. It was about 4 months after my wedding that I changed my name for HR and payroll purposes.I changed my credit cards and bank accounts 6 weeks after that and am waiting for my passport to expire to change my name on that. It’ll be like 10 months and 3 international trips before then.
Whenever I have to present my credentials I do what is called an AKA statement. It has never been a problem for anyone. I would change it legally as soon as possible and then change other pieces as it becomes easy to do.
ETA: In my office for our background checks, all of the married women work in an AKA statment. So the investagators ask “do you know Mary Smith, AKA Mary Jones or do you know Mary Smith Jones”. Having our maiden as our middle has really helped. There are 3 of us and we all only go by our maiden professionally and married for tax purposes. All of our background checks went fine. The only people at work who know we changed our names are the HR officer and my boss (it is on official records she sees)
Post # 16
Change it after your honeymoon (it’s easier to travel under your maiden name if you leave within a few days/weeks of your wedding than to try to rush the paperwork). Depending on what license you’re going for, look into the post-licensing name change rules. I’m an attorney in 2 states, and changing my name on my licenses was super simple, just a matter of mailing a form and a copy of our marriage certificate to the appropriate offices. Professional licensing bodies deal with name changes all the time, that part of changing your name is really not hard enough to warrant jumping through other hoops about it.
I got married in October, but I didn’t do my formal name change til I think December or January.