- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My Fiance and I have had a few discussions about the whole name change thing. We started on the same page, then flip flopped a bit. I feel very strongly about our new family sharing the same last name (mostly thinking of future children!) and he agrees
My fiance currently has a hyphenated last name. I do not want a hyphenated last name. So Initially my initial thought was to take one of his last names, and then name the future children the name I take, then over a course of time he would just go by it.
So living in Ontario and being a very prepared Bride, I called Service Ontario to determine that my decision to take only one of his names was allowed and I was abruptly told that I could NOT do that…I had to take all of his name, or none of it! So I considered hyphenating my last name with one of his last names. The Service ontario woman advised me that I could not do that either! She said that I would have to be J****** H*****-Z*****-K***! Two hyphens for one name! I told her that was ridiculous, and asked where it ended…she went on about how it was the law bla bla bla…not very helpful to say the least.
So then I tried to wrap my head around taking his hyphenated last name…and I just can’t do it. I feel as though people will feel that I hyphenated MY maiden name, and since it is not my maiden name, i really don’t want it. If I HAVE to hyphenate my name, I feel as though one of the names should be my own!
I explain to my fiance that it just isn’t sitting right with me and said that if he didn’t have a single name, that I would consider keeping my name (not something I really want to do). So he is going to look into legally changing his name before the wedding.
Sorry for the long post, but now I feel terrible about it! He has to divise a way to break it to his mom that he is going to no longer use her last name, and even though she is a great mom and willl respect his wishes, I don’t want her to be hurt or offended.
I was wondering if anyone else had this much trouble with the whole name change? Or any advice in general!