Post # 1
I would like to use my future husband’s last name socially and continue to use my maiden name professionally (in publications, emails, etc). I want students to call me “Dr. Pineapple,” which is the name on my diploma.
I know lots of other women in academia have gone this route, but they seem to all use the double name all the time, or else people default to calling them by the husband’s name as it is the final name in the string. I don’t want this to happen. I would, of course, have to give HR my full legal name for tax forms and payroll, but don’t want to have to use both names all the time. I know many women seem happy to use both last names all the time, but in my case, it would be cumbersome.
To bees who have switched to First Maiden Last and want to keep using only their maiden name at work:
1) When do you have to use both names? Do you sign financial documents with First M. Last? Can you ever sign with “First MaidenName?”
2) Do people in your workplace address you by just your maiden name (when they use a last name rather than your first name)? Does your work email, office door, class listing (if in academia), etc. list you by your maiden name or your new last name or both? How is it alphebetized at work?
I am attracted by the idea of a flexible last name option. I am hoping that with both names on my ID forms, I can pick and choose which to use on non-legal documents.
Post # 2
I did this – I wanted to be HusbandsName socially and legally and MaidenName professionally. Obviously HR uses my legal name for tax purposes etc, but I continue to sign documents within work with my maiden name and they honored my request to retain my email address and stay maiden in staff directories. Honestly, I just called HR and explained what I wanted, and they did it. No fuss.
If I move to another institution, I might change to my new last name, but I’ve built a name for myself inside my workplace and I feel like the change would be a hassle.
Honestly I don’t have to sign anything at work that is going to leave our institution, so I don’t know how the legality works out. I sign items out to preservation or the registrar as first maiden, nobody seems to care.
Post # 3
Phoenicia: I am First Name, Middle Name, Maiden Name -Husband Last Name. Legally, I have both mine and his. We hypen it most of time. Since they are both shorter last names, I usually make people say the whole thing lol! It’s only 12 letters! I think you can pick if you want to be alled such and such. I am sure people around me would be happier to have to deal with one less name, but that’s not what I want. I am proud to carry on my own last name along with my DH’s. Me colleagues know that’s my DH’s last name though.
Post # 4
Phoenicia: This is not exactly the same thing, so I didn’t vote, but my mom hyphenated her last name (First Maiden-Married) and is addressed as Dr. Maiden at work, but is listed as Dr. Maiden-Married in the directories and signs her name as Dr. First Maiden-Married.
I think that you can ask your students to call you whatever you want, but I wouldn’t be surprised if institutions had policies in place about how one would be listed and what one would have to sign on forms.