Post # 1
I’m sure some of you are trying to figure this out too! i know I definitely want to take on my husband’s new last name, but I’m not quite sure how.
I was named after my maternal grandmother (first name) and my paternal grandmother (middle name).
For example, right now my name is Valerie Marie Schubert (ok, not my real name, but you get the jist)
Let’s say my hubby’s last name is Traten (Yet again, made up)
How would this be:
Valerie Marie (First name) Schubert (Middle) Traten (Last)
Or should I do:
Valerie (First) Marie (Middle) Schubert-Traten (Last)
Ugh…. I just don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
I’m hyphenating. Middle name is also after my mother and grandmother, so not willing to part with it to make my last name my middle name like a lot of people do.
The first name of Valarie Marie is pretty cute, too!
Post # 4
Well, I have two middles already and I can tell you that if you want “Valerie Marie” to be your official first name, you’ll have to omit the space or hyphenate. Otherwise, you’ll just have two middles.
I think either way you do the last names would be fine, as long as you’re okay with it. Do you want to hyphenate the lasts so that you can still be recognized easily in your career? If you have specific reasons why you can’t decide, please let us know. It’d be easier to see where you stand on the issue.
Post # 5
I did Valerie Marie Traten Shubert and he did Robert Colin Shubert Traten (going along with your made up name theme 🙂
Neither of us could get over giving up our own names, so we just added. I’m still me, he’s still him… but we have a piece of each other in our names, even if it’s just as a second middle name.
I like the idea of keeping your last name as a part of the last name, but I think you have to decide whether he’ll be doing the same and what you want your kids’ last name to be, to help figure it out.
Post # 6
I’m ditching my maiden name completely, so I’ll be (with your made up names) Valerie Marie Traten.
Post # 7
As a product of hyphenating. I say do not do it. At least do not do it to your children. It has really been a pain, and I can’t wait to have one last name…Ahh a nice four letter last name. It was not fun growing up with two last names(the strange looks from teachers, the confused Postal/DMV/Insurance/Credit Card guy that deals with me, various doctors appointments where they cannot find my file because the filer was confused as to how they should file it). All of these things seem trivial, and they are, but my life would be easier without. Just last week I went to the Gyno and had a culture taken(sorry for being graphic). They told me to call the lab in a week, and I did. But surprise surprise they have no record of me. But they do.. they just dont know it yet, so after 20 min on the phone with the lab they finally find me. It is painful spelling out 19 letters over the phone. I digress. I was actually thinking about starting a post about this myself. I do realize I sound completley crazy, but it is a sore subject with me.
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Post # 8
Chirico: I feel you! I’m not hyphenated but both my first and maiden names give people TONS of spelling trouble. Not to mention that my first name is traditionally a boy’s name which only adds to the confusion.
I will be SO relieved to have a much easier to spell last name, although I’m sure the “uniqueness” of my first name will plague me forever ;o)
Post # 9
Oh gosh. You would think that hyphenating has been around long enough for people to have it straight!
Yes, I work in the performing arts, and this is a big part as to why I want to keep my maiden name. However, I also want to take his last name because I don’t want there to be a question as to if I am his wife or not since he is from Eastern Europe, and the social climate on this is kinda weird.
So, basically, if i am performing, I would want my full name “Valerie Marie Schubert Traten” to be in the program, but I would want to go by “Mrs. Traten” and have all of our children go by “Traten” one day as well!
Make sense? Thanks for the input!
Post # 10
I do like your idea of your maiden name as your middle name. Sorry for the blow up on your post. Good Luck!
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale
I just did First Middle (his name). I found out on Friday that in CA if you don’t declare your new last name on your Marriage Lisence, the DMV makes you go back and pay for a new one to change the altered name, so hopefully you don’t live in CA.