Post # 1
So my FI is Jewish (I am not) and we are having an interfaith wedding. At his sister’s Jewish wedding, there was a part of the reception when the bride and groom were seated on the dance floor and the guests “entertained” them. Some juggled, some did a fun dance, and so forth. We thought it was a fun tradition and thought we might do it instead of a bouquet toss and garter toss. We’d like to advertise it in some way in advance, since only 1/3 of our guests will be Jewish. However, I can’t find an official name for this tradition. What do people call it? Is it not a common thing at Jewish weddings?
Thanks in advance for your help!
Post # 2
Badchanim: Wedding Jesters<br /> Creating joy is a serious business. At some weddings, especially in Chassidic communities, badchans, professional jesters, are hired to entertain the crowd. These paid or voluntary jokesters deliver puns and comedic jabs in mostly Yiddish rhyme – couplets for the couple.
Post # 3
I’ve always heard it called “shtick” which is a yiddish word for gimmick or routine. It’s a common thing at religious weddings, but not everyone does it. It comes from the Jewish tradition that you treat the bride and groom like royalty at the wedding, and that it is honor to bring them joy. Most people who participate in it prepare things in advance and it’s usually the same trick they do at every wedding. I don’t know that it would go over well in a crowd that isn’t used to it, and I’d be too afraid it would be awkward.
Post # 4
happycamper8: I’ve alsoonly heard it refered to as shtick. I’ve NEVER heard of them hiring people to do it. Usually it’s the bride and groom’s friends that set it up, sometimes it’s their families. You usually personalize it with things the bride and groom is interested in, or does. For instance, if your FI is a sports fan, maybe you can organize people dressing up in jersey of that team.
I would suggest talking to your bridesmaids and your sister in law about your desire to have it at the wedding.
I would be interested in knowing what happened as my SO is also not jewish and it’s something he has expressed he would like to have as well. But I was also concerned about how it might be received at a crowd not really used to that type of thing.
Post # 5
I’ve been to lots of Jewish weddings and the shtick is always my favorite part! I’m engaged now too, and often think about what my friends will do for me. For my siblings weddings I always coordinated with friends to plan out some things in advance/bring props, etc. My brother had an interfaith wedding and about half of us were Jewish, and the other half still got really into the shtick. Ask your FI’s siblings to reach out to their friends and maybe your bridal party to plan things. Something easy and pretty common I’ve seen is college friends putting on a shirt or something from your school. Also it’s pretty common for people to make/decorate cute water bottles for the bride and groom to hydrate during that time. Jump ropes are also super fun — my go-to move is tie a bunch of cloth napkins from the tables together to make a jump rope.
Post # 6
Shtick is the best! I can’t wait for this part of my wedding. It’s super fun 😀
Post # 7
rosegoldpetals: Ok, I know this will sound really bad, but when I first saw the word “Shtick,” I thought it said, “shit stick” with no space.
But wanted to add, I think this sounds like a really cool tradition and personalized aspect of a wedding! I wish we had a neat tradition like that to incorporate into our wedding. But neither of us are religious and we don’t have any cultural traditions to celebrate. So, our wedding was fairly standard, though still really fun.