Post # 1
So I’m new around here, and I too am waiting. I was actually looking for a waiting ‘support group’, and found this! 🙂 My SO and I have been dating for 6.5 years. We are currently 23 and 24. Right now he is on a 4 week job training business trip so we are long distance for the first time since college.
I was wondering if anyone had any names that they called thier boyfriend when refering to them, other than “my boyfriend”? I joke with my SO that I call him “my live-in boyfriend” as it seems a little more serious (although I was joking). And the other day one of my friends refered to my SO as my ‘pre-ance’, mixing ‘pre’ and ‘fiance’. I thought it was hilarious and I think I’m going to call him that! 🙂 I think he’d find it funny. We have talked about looking at rings when he gets back from training.
Post # 3
@leftyletters: Nope! I wish I had another name for him besides boyfriend, since we do own a house together and are a serious couple. I don’t like having the same title as 13 year olds. I mean, come on. We’re 24 and 29. Boy/girlfriend sound so disposable.
But we were out to dinner the other night, and when the waiter returned his credit card (with his name on it), he said “Thank you, David, and David’s lady friend”. And we both laughed. I try to get him to call me lady friend now (since its silly) but he just laughs and tells me I’m dumb 🙂 haha
Post # 4
@leftyletters: Not waiting anymore, but we dated for 9 years before getting engaged and lived together for 5 years. So definitely felt like we were more established than “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” before our engagement. We actually wrote down significant other on paperwork/leases, but when I would refer to him, I typically just said boyfriend or his name.
Post # 5
@leftyletters: Also… WELCOME TO THE HIVE! 😀 Its always fun meeting a new Bee 🙂
Post # 6
I call him main squeeze.
But boyfriend too. I don’t think it suggests a low-commitment, especially in mid-20s. The way we treat each other speaks more to the future of this relationship than the labels.
Post # 7
I call him my boyfriend. I do find it kind of silly that I call the man I have loved for nearly 6 years what kids call their crush. Oh well, boyfriend/girlfriend works for us. Hoping to start calling him my fiancé soon 🙂
Post # 8
Lol, I met Mr TTR when I was in my 40s (he was in his 50s) and still we referred to each other as Boyfriend & Girlfriend cause that truly was what we were (dating)
After we moved in together, it was BF / GF – SO – or Partner
When FOREVER was clearly in our future it became any of the above or Life Partner
After Engagement Fiancé / Fiancée
(Mind you a lot of people when we were dating thought we were long marrieds… especially those who didn’t know either of us beforehand… so a lot of time people just called us Mr & Mrs… and we would graciously grin & bear it not correcting anyone that we weren’t married, or had two different last names)
Now that we are married… Mr TTR likes to tease me, and often calls me his “Girlfriend” cause he says it sounds way more romantic than wife.
I’m good with either Wife or Girlfriend. Lol
Infact there is very little in life that I wouldn’t like him to call me… he’s never been a disrespectful sort of guy… so every title he’s ever given me (even in jest) has been good by me (he has some cute nicknames for me at times as well… like Daaarling)
Hope this helps,
Post # 9
Towards the last bit of being boyfriend and girlfriend before we got engaged i started calling him my partner I hatinus using the term partner as boyfriend sounded so young and he is older then me
Post # 11
@leftyletters: I’m DEFINITELY going to start using the word pre-ancé ..because I know he’s popping the question soon:)
Post # 12
@leftyletters: I get so sick of the term boyfriend especially since I know he wants to get married next year 🙁 I usually say SO (significant other) or sometimes ‘love’ because he seems to like it
Post # 13
@LeonardLady: My SO’s grandfather calls me his “lady friend.” Now we use it, too. I just wish we could figure out if Zadie uses it affectionately or dismissively.
We try to use “partner” each time, partially to indicate seriousness and partially to avoid gendered language…but everyone just ends up asking what we mean.
Post # 14
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@leftyletters: “partner” is a very common one because we have beenlivingtogether for quite a while and have joined up all our finances for over a year. SO is the other one. It’s a little funny but his mother sometimes refers to me as his wife when she is introducing me. It is somewhat funny because it gets family friends from his side a little confused as they don’t see us all the time.
Post # 15
I call him my ‘Man Friend’ or ‘Gentleman Caller’ frequently lol. But if you’re talking about an actual serious name I think ‘Partner’ is a good one.
Post # 16
I usually say “Partner” if I’m in a situation where it feels inappropriate to use the phrase “boyfriend.” We’ve chosen to spend our lives together, despite not being engaged yet, we own a house together and have done for two years, we’ve been living together for nearly three years, and he’s 35 (I am 26); “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” doesn’t seem to fit the sitation any longer. But use what feels natural to you! Partner works for us, but not everybody.