Post # 1
I’ve got a while to go, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about. I graduate in 2016 and I am getting married 2 weeks after graduation. Diplomas aren’t mailed until 6 to 8 weeks after graduation, so by the time I receive mine, I will have a new last name. Which name do I use on my diploma? I would much rather use my future last name, but can I since it won’t be my legal name when I graduate, even though it will be my legal name when I receive my diploma? I know I can get a new diploma, but I’d rather save myself the trouble if I can. Thanks!
Post # 3
@GreenSkittle: I don’t think you can. The name on your diploma must match your legal name, which will be your maiden name at the time it’s printed. The only variations my schools have allowed are initials (Jane D. Smith, Jane Doe Smith, or J. Doe Smith).
Can you change your name prior to your wedding?
Post # 4
Is it possible just to get married a month or two sooner, and have the big ceremony thereafter?
Eventually, I need to go change my old school records and order an updated diploma, but no, you won’t be able to get your diploma in anything other than your legal name. After the fact, you’ll have to order another (I think at my university, I only need to pay $20 or so for a reprinted with my new name after I change my records).
Post # 5
I finished grad school and got married 2 weeks later (courthouse wedding first). I chose to use my maiden name on my diploma, because I felt like that was the name that suffered through the hell of grad school. My married name is my future, but my maiden name was the name that perservered if that makes any sense. Plus it matches my undergard diploma and GOD FORBID anything should ever happen to our marriage, MY name will always be on the diploma.
Post # 6
Your wedding date is so far in the future, is it set in stone already? could you move it up a few months,? maybe do a christmas wedding or a summer 2015 wedding? I know what it’s like trying to schedule a wedding around a school year… no one else seems to empathise with us! I got a ton of slack for choosing a new years wedding because it worked with my schedule… everyone wanted fall or spring… we compromised on summer but it’ll be hard, and I’ll probably be flying in a day or two before the wedding… for my own wedding! urgh lol but I’d definately want my married name on the diploma. I’m class of 2015 and getting married in summer of 2014, so I have time to make sure the school and all my afiliated licensing bodies will have my new last name.
Post # 7
If you should decide to make your maiden name your new, legal middle name after marriage, it would provide you with some of the continuity you may be seeking.
It would be very easy for future patients (if you’re in the medical field) or your co-workers and others who will see your diploma to realize that, for example, “Jane Emily Smith” (maiden name on a diploma) is now “Jane Smith Doe.” That’s one of many reasons I love this formal, tradtional, name-change method. 🙂
Post # 8
I just graduated and got married in March. My name on my diploma had to match what was legally on file with the university. There was no option to have your diploma name say something different.
Post # 9
@AirForceWife78: +1 To all of your points
Post # 10
I graduated 6 weeks after our wedding but since I was my maiden name through school, I just kept it at that and what my diploma reads. Does it really matter?
Post # 11
Both DH and I have our original names on our diplomas for our BA. We got married while still in grad school, so our MA diplomas have our new names (we hyphenated together).
Post # 12
my diploma has my maiden name. I agree with @AirForceWife78
Post # 13
I got married 2 months after graduation. I chose my maiden name because that’s who I was when I got that degree.
Post # 14
I think I would go with your maiden name since you weren’t married when you did all the work to get the degree. I got married a few weeks after I graduated, and I didn’t get the diploma until after I got married, but I am happy to have my maiden name on it because that’s who I was when I was in college. My married identity is a different chapter.
Post # 15
you don’t have to put your legal name on your diploma.
I got married 2 months before I finished college and I put my first, middle, maiden last name, married last name on my diploma. My maiden name is not part of my legal name.
I personally put both because my parents helped me pay for the first 2 years of school and were supportive for the entire 4 years of college as was DH so i wanted to put both of them.