- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So, I know there are a lot of name-changing posts already, but I’m just starting to really think about it.
I used to be a very conservative christian, but I have rejected those beliefs. In high school I just assumed I would take my husband’s last name. In college, I was pretty jaded and didn’t care if I ever got married, and if I did I would probably keep my name, for reason of continuity in artistic professional work.
Now, however, I just don’t know. I am not particularly attached to my name, especially because I don’t get along with most of my family. However, many people tell my that my last name is unique and cool and that they like it. On the other hand, my FI name is also very rare and unique, and there are less of them in the U.S. than my family (and my family reproduces at a much higher rate!)
FI is semi-tradiational. He has jokingly suggested combining our names, but I know he would never really do it because his name is very important to him. I think he would be okay with the keeping my name, and would never tell me I had to change it, but his family would definitely be upset.
I am considering changing my name for personal use, but keeping it for professional use (I have recently become a published illustrator, and even though I am nowhere near successful, I have sold some paintings under my maiden name).
Here’s what I might do…
Keep all names, but combine my first and middle name. Make my maiden name my middle name, and take his last name. Use my original first name and new middle name for professional use. Use my original first name (or new nickname) and his last name for personal use.
Questions: Does that make sense? And is it crazy?
Also… I am debating using a hypen to combine the first and middle names, or just putting them together (together they make a legit. first name btw).
My mother has told me multiple times that she almost named me my first name + middle names as a single name, but decided it was too long. My middle name is my great grandmother’s name, and I was born on her birthday, so I don’t want to just drop it.