Post # 1
I had a dear friend who died of cancer a few years ago. He was an amazing person and a really great friend. Both my fiance and I have some grandparents who have passed and to honor them we are “saving them a seat” at the ceremony by placing a framed photograph of them in the reserved seating as well as having their names listed in the program for persons who have passed. It will read “We remember family and friends who are no longer with us but are still watching over us” with their names placed below.
I am also saving my dear friend a seat at the ceremony but I’m not sure if I should name him in the program. What do you think? Would it be weird to do? Thoughts?
Post # 3
This person will be with you in spirit regardless. I wouldn’t mention them in the program because you don’t want to turn your wedding into a memorial service for someone else. While it may not be your intention at all, people do find that type of thing (having an empty seat, publicly mentioning deceased loved ones, etc) to be depressing and out of place at a wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
A friend had this in her program, which I think is a terrific way to honor ALL your loved ones:
We’d like to thank our family for all their love and support which made us who we are, and brought us to this special day.
…Our friends, with whom we experience life’s joys, and whom we hope will be part of our lives throughout the years to come.
…And those whose memory we forever preserve in our hearts:
(list the names)
With all due respect, I’m a little concerned that reserving the chairs with photos might be a little upsetting to people- if you’re going to have photos, on a table at the reception seems more appropriate. (I say this as one who has also lost both grandparents, and a very dear friend- they will be celebrated in the program as shown above.)