Naming Kids After Family

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My FI is named after his grandfather. While I’m sure his parents thought it would be a nice sentiment, he hates it.  His grandfather is still living (thankfully) but that means he is always called the “cutesy” shortened version of his name around family so people know who is being spoken of.  I know my fiance never liked the nickname version and had to go out of his way to shed it with longtime friends and neighbors. However his parents insist on using it.  I just asked him what he cared to tell you and the answer was “Don’t do it unless the person has died.  Then it’s a tribute” So that’s his two cents.


I was named after my great grand aunt so it is a family name, but it has never caused any of the problems FI has had.

Post # 4
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We decided to use family names as middle names.  We didn’t find out the gender before having the baby, so we were going to use DH’s middle name (which is also his grandfather’s first name) as a middle name for our son (James) and my grandmother’s and my mother’s middle name for our daughter (Joanne)

We had a girl and named her Eleanor Joanne, and it turns out that my grandmother had an aunt named Eleanor that I didn’t know about!  


Post # 5
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You could modify the names you don’t like and use them as middle names…like use Ray for a girl’s middle name, or change Carol to Caroline.  



Post # 6
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@taraelisabeth:  I wouldn’t name my child after our parents, BUT we are keeping some things in the family. My middle name is Marie, so my girl’s middle name will be Marie (if I have a girl).

I like family names, but I think if they are still living it doesn’t appeal to me. I would use their first names as middle names instead.

Post # 7
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t use a family name if I didn’t like it. Maybe for a middle name though I would definitely consider it. I also like the PP suggestion of using variations of the names to update them!

Post # 8
441 posts
Helper bee

I was named after my grandmother, and I love my name. I’m biased toward using family names for kids.

If I didn’t like the family member’s name though, I think it counts to use a similar/related name that we like better, e.g. naming a kid Caroline after someone named Carol, or Gene after someone named Yevgeny, stuff like that.

My parents also incorporated names much further back than their own parents – you can always look at grandparents’, aunts’/uncles’, and other relatives’ names.

There are lots of options with family names really 🙂

Post # 9
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@taraelisabeth:  I totally feel you on thinking about your dad while doing wedding planning. My dad died when I was 11, so it’s been really hard thinking about this stuff. I’m thinking of asking one of my uncles to walk me down the aisle, and FI and I have talked about scrapping any parent dances altogether (he doesn’t like to be in the spotlight, and I already know I’d be a wreck). It’s the one downer of this otherwise joyous occasion. Feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk about it, because I’m right there with you.

As far as naming kids after family…If we have a boy, I’d really like to use my dad’s middle name for his first name. I’ve thought about using first & middle name, but I like the sound of the middle name better with FI’s last name. It’s tricky though, because FI is a junior, and wants to have a “third” as well. I liked the idea of using my dad’s middle name as a first name and then FI’s middle name as the middle, in case we only have one boy, but then if we have 2 boys we’d want to do the “third”. FI is very supportive of naming a son after my dad, and if we only have one boy I think he’d be okay with us only using my dad’s name.

Post # 10
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We plan on using family names, although FI insists that we use one of his mom’s names if we have a girl…neither of which I really like. Oh well, we’ll cross that bridge when we get there.

Post # 11
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@taraelisabeth:  if the jewish religion you name after the deceased and it doesn’t have to be the exact name.

my name is Jill, I was named after my great grandmother julia.

my brother samuel, was named after my other great grandmother sayrah.

my FI’s cousin, Samara was named after her great uncle Samuel


Post # 14
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@taraelisabeth:  Likely we would just use her middle name as the middle name, so it’s really not that big of a deal. I’m just not a huge fan.

Post # 15
2315 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think middle names are ok for family names but I think first names should be different from other living relatives. 

We’ve sort of been having a similar debate between myself and my fiancé. He would like to name a son (if) we have with his middle name (David) as it is tradition in his family for the son to take the middle name of his father as his first name. I have nothing against the name David – it is growing on me. But my sister’s husband has the same name and so does a cousin of mine!

Post # 16
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m named after my living grandmother and it does create confusion a lot of the time. We have the same full name (first, middle and last name) so it’s even more confusing. But I love my name and that we have this special bond.

DH is named after his deceased grandfater so there hasn’t ever been any confusion about who’s who.

Our daughter has a family name. It was my great grandmothers name and is a version of my MILs name. DD is Elisabet and my MIL is Lisa. I would never use a family name that I didn’t like just to honour someone but I love the idea of Carol-Caroline.

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