Nanny for help in first weeks with baby?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would you use a nanny in the first weeks for help?
    YES! I could use all the help I can get : (22 votes)
    28 %
    NO! We don't/won't/didn't need help! : (28 votes)
    35 %
    I don't need to my family will help : (23 votes)
    29 %
    NO I can't afford it : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Other, I'll explain : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @edgebee:  I’ve worked as a nanny. I think it can be a great supplemental help, however, you should compensate well. Newborns are tough and they require experience and nannies should be paid accordingly. You are trusting them with your child. Ask for references. Have a contract that states duties you expect: laundry? cooking? Don’t just assume things. Being on the same page and making sure your nanny feels appreciated is key to having a stress-free nanny experience. Personally I would love to spend a couple weeks helping a new mom out!

    Post # 4
    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    honestly, I found the first few weeks boring…. yes you had to get up a few times in the night, but they sleep for like 18 hours altogether. My husband and i invested in a few good movies and that was our best advice. 

    Post # 5
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    This would be a money thing for me, and just the simple fact of wanting to be able to handle things myself, even if that’s a crazy thing to try and accomplish 😉

    Post # 6
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think in the beginning newborns sleep A LOT so there isn’t really a need for this.  Plus, while people do go back to work after having a baby, it seems odd to want to pass off the mothering duties so soon.  I think most people cherish that maternity leave time with their new babies, and after becoming a parent you would not resent your own child (who is not an IT) for not sleeping through the night. 

    Post # 7
    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @edgebee:  we would have had no use for a nanny in the first few months. especially breastfeeding, not sure if you will be doing so or not. 

    The first few months LO just ate and slept and cuddled and slept. I wouldn’t have wanted someone else there for those first precious moments. And because she slept so much I overhauled my yard, redecorated/wallpapered the guest room, painted the living room and bedroom, had a spotless house, threw my SO a ridiculous 30th birthday party, and started writing a book. 

    i wouldn’t mind one now that she’s 3 though 😉

    Post # 8
    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @edgebee:  its quite common here where i live in mexico, esp for middle class. though to be fair, cleaning service/help in the house ise reasonably common so its not a giant leap to have child care

    i dont seem why not, either having someone help with the baby or just take care of the chores for first few weeks so you can concentrate on the baby

    Post # 9
    2174 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Being that to be on maternity leave (short term disability), I would only receive 60% of my salary, hiring a caretaker is not financially feasible.  If it was, I can imagine wanting help one or two days a week, but not full-time.



    Post # 10
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MrsTVLover:  I agree. What would be so difficult that, between 2 of you, you cannot handle? I wouldnt want a nanny that quickly for my newborn. 

    Post # 12
    13168 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Newborns sleep a lot so I really don’t see why it would be hard for me and my DH to handle.  And really, even if it was, I’d rather be the one taking care of my child and learning the ropes of the best way to do things.  Hiring a nanny right off the bat holds zero appeal to me.

    Post # 13
    856 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @edgebee:  are you planning to breastfeed? If so the nanny can’t feed your child. I have a 2 month old so this is fresh in my mind. We could afford the help but I definitely would not want it! The first few weeks of my DDs life were a chance for DH and I to figure things out and get to know our baby on our own. Also my boobs were out constantly the first few days. I will be a SAHM but will have family or pay a regular babysitter to get out once a week or so on my own. Having babies is hard but you’ll get through it! Also I don’resent my baby at all for causing stress or loss of sleep. I love her too much! You’ll understand when you’re a parent and priorities change. Good luck!

    Post # 15
    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t want someone else interfering in those first few weeks while i’m figuring stuff out. You have to breastfeed every couple of hours, too – it would be hard to pump enough extra at those intervals to make enough for a nanny to take over.

    I WOULD get a maid and possibly pay someone to grocery shop and run errends if it made the budget, though!!

    Post # 16
    2876 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    @edgebee:  this is really too hard to say each baby is so different.

    With my first it was so easy because he was such a great baby. We were out and about from 1 week. I loved it and enjoyed every moment. 

    My second child was a nightmare screamed day and night from reflux. This is when a nanny would have been fantastic help. I would have loved to have a nanny for about a month and it would have been worth it however it wasn’t possible for us. 


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