Post # 1
I’m a nanny and have been with my current family for about a year and a half. Baby was 3 months old when I started and will be 2 in March! Her mom is currently pregnant and will be due in May, very exciting!
The thing is, I have never been given a raise. I don’t think it’s because they aren’t happy with me, on the contrary for Christmas/Birthday they have always given gifts/bonuses and written me cards saying how grateful they are and how much they love me, etc. They ask me to come early and are late coming home pretty much EVERY day, and I clock in about 50 hours a week(this is fine, just pointing out that I’m super flexible!). I do the kiddo’s laundry, including washing her cloth diapers 2-3 times a week, take her to scheduled classes at least twice a week(along with trips to the children’s museuem, zoo, etc), run errands for them, occassionally grocery shop, load and unload the dishwasher, have taken their dog to day care, etc etc etc. So all of the agreed upon/expected stuff and a lot of extras, typically.
Anyway, I have been trying to work up the courage to ask for a raise for a long time now, but now that there is another baby on the way the conversation is inevitable. I’m hoping THEY bring it up, but if they don’t I definitely will. I honestly took the job at a lower rate than I wanted to, and never expected to still be making the same almost 2 years later. With my previous nanny job, I was already making $2 more an hour than what I started at by this point. The rate I am making now is what I made when I first started nannying, before I had a ton of experience.
Would it be fair for me to ask for $3 more an hour once the baby comes? I FEEL like this is more than fair, especially since kid #1 will still be with me full time for at least another year, and I will have been with them for 2 years at that point without any raise. I honestly feel like I could ask for more and it would be justified, but I don’t want to seem to greedy or out of touch.
Post # 3
@jessicadarling: 2 years without a raise is a long time! $3 extra per hour seems reasonable, but to give yourself confidence, maybe do some research into what current rates are in your area? And while you may be happy where you are, it might not hurt to start looking at other jobs or agencies. Best case, you’ll find that you have a pretty good job and raise is warranted. Worst case, you find an even better job out there! You don’t want to be taken advantage of, and it’s so easy to let it happen when you like the family and love the kid you care for!
Post # 4
i dont think its terrible you havent been given a raise in 1.5 years (plenty of people dont get an annual raise) but i dont see the harm in asking for one once the 2 year mark has passed
3 dollars an hour increase might be a bit high depending on how much youre getting paid at the moment. id talk to them and see what they say
Post # 5
I guess it depends on how much you’re making now to start with. My gut says that a $3 per hour raise for putting an additional infant in your care is too little. I agree with previous posters to compare typical rates in your area.
Post # 6
Depending on what you are paid now, I would ask for $2 or $3 more an hour.
Post # 7
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@jessicadarling: have they already said that you’re going to be staying on for the next kid when the mom has her mat leave?
Talking about money is never easy, but I think that you should talk to them about what you stated above. How you accepted less because you love their family; however a second child and the fact that you never have been given a raise means it’s time for an increase.
I personally wouldn’t say $3. I would raise those points and see what they present you with. You can’t go up after you’ve presented less. Let them come up with a figure. I’m sure that they are anticipating this conversation anyway.
Make $3 your bottom line figure (or whatever it is) and see what they offer.
Post # 8
how much are your currently making a hour i would ask for at least a 6 dollars raise if im alos watching a newborn!
Post # 9
@missamysmiles: +1 also is she definitely going back to work after the second baby? I have a few friends that stayed home after they had the second baby.
Post # 10
I don’t think the extra $3 is that bad to ask for since you haven’t been given a raise. I don’t ever get offered raises (I’m also a nanny). I almost feel like the families I have worked for don’t even consider this my actual job, so they think it’s just for side money. This is how I pay my bills! I’m actually working for a family right now for sooo much less than I should be with my experience and the area, but I just LOVE the little boy, and I don’t think they could afford much more than what they are giving me.
Post # 11
@jessicadarling: If they’re paying you for less work than you’re doing and your workload is about to double then yes, a raise is definitely warranted. I actually think 3 dollars more may be too little, depending n how much you are payed already (would you be willing to share that info?). I agree with @kenziemt: that the worst case scenario is that you don’t get the raise you deserve and so have to look for a better paid job. Honestly from reading this, I’m getting the feeling that you don’t like to put your foot down and these people are a little exploitative of that. Don’t let them sell you short – you care for their child, you deserve their repsect which includes fair pay.
My mom worked as a maid for a while when I was growing up. I know that being told that you’re really appreciated is great, but how much someone pays you is how much they really value your work.
Post # 12
@missamysmiles: That’s kind of what I was thinking. I just have no idea what my bosses are thinking, they are weird about money! I do know that what I’m getting paid now is more but not THAT MUCH more than they would have paid in day care, they mentioned that when I first started. So looking at it that way, they could be paying up to DOUBLE for two kids in day care vs having me stay for not even 50% more. Hopefully they bring it up and make an offer without me having to counter with $3, which is definitely I feel like my bottom line. They could totally surprise me and offer me $5 or more, or they could try and go as long as possible without saying anything..
@cmbr: I’m with you, it’s literally twice as much work. But looking around the internet, you’d be surprised how many moms think $.50 to $1 is generous.
@newname_99: In my previous experience, I have always been given a yearly raise, and it’s always been at least $1. I don’t know any other nannies who haven’t been given a yearly raise or bonus, personally.
@kenziemt: This is really good advice. it is definitely not a normal working relationship, I care about the kid and I care about her parents a lot as well! But I definitely think I am underpaid.. And I don’t think they could feasibly find another nanny for less for what I do and for how flexible I am, and I don’t think they could switch to day care because of their schedules and lives. The mom has admitted several times they would have to give up a lot and would have a lot more stress if they had to deal with drop off and pick up every day, etc.
Post # 13
Maybe I’m just crazy… also this depends on how much you are making now…
But is $3.00 an hour extra really all that is expected from a nanny that is about to put in double the work?! I would think that you should get way more than that…
I’m just a little in shock… I guess I don’t know much about the nanny buisness!
Post # 14
@HisIrishPrincess: She is 100% for sure going back to work after he maternity leave. They are both physicians, and she has told me several times that the deal she has with the hospital she works at is way too good. For instance, part of her contract is that they pay off all of her student loans.. If she quit her job, there is no way they’d be able to pay back both of their student loans themselves on one income.
Post # 15
Well I don’t think it’s a big deal you haven’t gotten a raise in 2 years, a lot of people don’t.
But if they’re planning on now having you take care of both children, you should definitely get a raise. I have no idea on how much of a raise is reasonable though. Maybe look at what it would cost them to have both kids in daycare. I think you should let them make the first offer (after discussing that you do need a raise for the second child of course).
Post # 16
@Ruby-Redshoes: It definitely is hard because I am more invested in this kid and family than I would be at a normal job. If I worked for a corporation I’d have no problem asking for a raise, but these are people I see 5 days a week and have developed a personal relationship with! I don’t think they are intentionally exploitive, but they definitely are happy to have all of the extra help I give them, that is for sure.
I make $11 an hour. So depending on what I work, I usually take home between $500-600 a week. For contrast, when I left my last family I made $14 an hour, but usually took home $700 a week because the mom usually rounded WAY up and gave a little extra. I usually worked 40-44 hours a week then, so actually made about $200 more a week working 6-10 less hours.
@lolita39: It really is shocking.. I don’t know a single nanny who literally got paid double for an extra kid. To be fair, it isn’t necessarily 100% HARDER, even if it is technically 100% more work.. I mean if you make lunch, it isnt twice as HARD to plate two meals instead of one, or to heat up a bottle at the same time, etc. But there is definitely 100% more responsibility.