Post # 1
I am a bee in waiting. I know a proposal is coming but not exactly sure when or how..he says it will be on a romantic day. Hmmm… We have picked out a ring ( he is ordering the stone now and shown me the custom design of the ring also). We have contacted vendors, picked a date, and decided to forgoe a small wedding for an elopement! We looked at a local museum and had planned to have a small wedding and reception ( 100 guest) but the more we looked, crunched numbers and planned the closer we became to our original plan of eloping. We would notify our parents and friends but it would just be the two of us in a bed and breakfast in Napa Valley ( we love wine,fine food and romance!). I wanted to reach out to any other bees who have planned an elopement ( not small destination wedding) that included just you and the groom? Any suggestions or things to watch out for? Any advice or support would help!
Post # 3
I don’t know how much help I would be because my hubby and I “eloped” with my parents and his parents. I will admit I pissed off alot of my other family members, but we threw a “reception” a couple of weeks after our nuptials.
Some advice I would tell you about is to remember that this is you and your husband’s wedding. Don’t let other people make you feel bad about your decisions.
My only suggestion is that you have TONS of fun!!!!!! It is all about you guys!
Post # 4
Awesome! Congrats! I’m doing something kind of similar on June 4th! (We’re calling it a destination wedding though, but its literally just us and the photographer). We’re going up to spend some time in New York, and I literally could not be more excited! I’ve been calling it the “Little Wedding I never knew I wanted” because I had always envisioned myself having a big wedding with my whole family and everything. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that it wasn’t fincancially practical for us, and that we didn’t want the stress of our two HUGE familiies weighing on us during every single decision. So we decided to forego it and do what we want to do, get married! We’re staying at a really nice hotel, bought a little cake, wedding clothes (I splurged on a regular wedding dress), flowers, a dinner reservation, and a photographer.
It’s really going to be amazing, and I love that I can really focus on me and FI and the magnitude of what we’re about to do. If we were having a big wedding, I know that it would really be all about the family (they have a way of steamrolling things) and making sure everyone else is having a good time.
One thing I would reccomend though, is telling your family this is your plan. I started telling people what we were planning to do a few months in advance. I was really lucky and everyone understood perfectly well and was really supportive. I also think they felt like I gave them the courtesy of thinking about them and their feelings. I also followed up with “And we’re really excited to maybe have a first anniversary party next year” so they knew it was still important to me to celebrate with them.. I just wanted to focus on my marriage right now. After all, if you say it like that (I want to focus on my marriage), who can really criticize?
Post # 5
@Mrs.LemonDrop:Thanks guys. We have since changed our plans and are going to Maui! We are going to include small group of immediate family and are so excited! I still love the elopement idea but think this will allow us to include our parents yet still not be overwhelmed with planning a wedding with family pressure.