(Closed) Narrowing down the “List”

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is so difficult, I completely relate!  We aren’t getting married until November, and we started our guest list in January.  We began by putting everyone we could think of down on a spreadsheet.  Then we narrowed it down from there, we started by listing bridal party members and their dates at the top, followed by family members (essential family members not distant relatives), then close friends.  We kept going until we hit our max invite number.  Every month we look at the list again and have been able to take a couple of more names off.  The more we think about it, the less guilty we feel about not inviting say, college friends that we don’t speak with very often. 

We are lucky that we have some time before the STDs need to go out (we’ve only sent an email to close family and friends who we know will need to book a flight) so we have the luxury of cleaning up our list alot.  πŸ™‚ 

Post # 4
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It gets easier, it really does. If you are having OOT guests then there is that possibility of them not coming and you will probably know know which ones will be able to make the trip. Now for the ones who live in your area…well the ones you speak less and less to could be the ones who you can take off the list. You can even consider which people you are the closest to. I’m sure you are close to your guests but there are some ppl that you are far more closer and cutting them off the list is not an option.

Post # 5
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1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I made my list of family and personal friends (with any +1s), FI made his list of family and personal friends (with any +1s), and then we made a list of mutual friends, including +1s. We right-off-the-bat included only people we see (or, in the case of out-of-state family, speak to monthly).

I will admit that when we had planned 50 guests, we never thought we’d exceed it and we did…to 98. Because we did not want to exclude the people on our list, we actually changed our meal plan to better accomodate more people and our budget. It worked for us.

But, like it’s been said, if you have out-of-town people, they may not come, but you simply cannot reply on that theory. I have uncles and aunts who have never come down to visit in over 10-years, even with my parents’ failing health, but they’re making the trip for the wedding.

I have no idea if this helped or not. Are you cutting down your list due to your budget? If so, is there a way to stretch your budget in one area to allow for those 20 extra people, and cut back on another area of your budget?

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