Post # 1
Last night right before bed, FI said that one of his many siblings just sent him a nasty email. FI appeared very upset and didn’t want to talk about it. He said that his new way to controlling his anger. This morning, he still appears upset and refuses to talk about it. He said he rather keep it inside than start cussing out of anger.
I don’t know what his sibling could have wrote to upset him SO much. His family has made a big deal out of everything. I really can’t stand them. They complained last week on the phone that it’s a hassle for them to drive 6 hrs to attend our wedding, blah, blah, blah. If it were one of my siblings who sent me a mean email, I would just tell that person to not attend if she/he doesn’t want to. I wouldn’t be THAT upset.
I’m just venting, however, I’m also annoyed that FI doesn’t want to talk about it with me.
Post # 3
It could be something he doesn’t want to drag you into, thus keeping it inside. Try doing something to help him take his mind off of it and bring attention to the love you have for each other. Love is very helpful in calming anger 🙂
Post # 4
Guys don’t like to talk about stuff. Just let him know that if he does want to share it with you, that you are there and you will listen without trying to fix it. It seems like he wants to try to fix this himself. In time, he will probably come around to talk about it with you. He probably just doesn’t want you to offer him ways to fix it right now. He wants to do it on his own.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies. Since he doesn’t want to talk about it, I just sent him an email. I hope he reads and starts to talk to me about it.
Post # 6
I agree with noritake. My honey will keep stuff from me cuz he knows that we both have that attitude that if one us fights we both fight and he knows what a pistol I can be.
Post # 7
yeah my guy doesn’t like talking about things either, when he’s upset or hurt he just holds it in and sometimes just wants to be with me and not worry that I’ll nag him about telling me stuff.
like Kies said, it could be something he doesn’t want to drag you into… a lot of times my fi knows that I’ll be equally upset if he tells me something right away, so he’ll wait and often it turns out a lot better that way… he’s probably not talking because he loves you and knows you’re upset about how his family is treating you and your wedding.
sorry for all the drama :(:(:(
and ps. I don’t think 6 hours is too long of a drive for a wedding! My fi’s family has to come to Minnesota all the way from NY!!
Post # 8
Im sorry that you have to go through that. My FI does the whole not venting thing. He keeps it all bottled up until something sets him off. I would personally just not ask about it, because it may be something that you dont want to hear. You should be enjoying your wedding day.