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I wanted to update here. As my 30th birthday approaches in a few days I’ve been taking some time to reflect on my life. The goals I had, one of them being married with a few kids by 30.
It hasn’t happened entirely yet. Although I have 1 wonderful kid whose been my greatest accomplishment.
Nearly one year ago I posted here my decision to walk away from a nearly 6 year relationship with a man who refused to move forward with me. I had doubts about starting over and finding the right guy.
My self esteem took a hit and I started to see a counselor who gave me newfound hope and a better sense of what to avoid when dating again.
I never expected to find the guy who meets all of my expectations Soon after but it really does happen when you least expect it. The crazy thing is we ‘dated’ in junior high, and reconnected online over the summer.
I’m happier than I’ve ever been and he actually talks about committing to me. I’m the one who wants to wait this time!
During my breakup there were times I wanted to run back to the ex out of comfort and fear. I’m so glad I didn’t, it would still be a dead end.
To anyone who finds themself questioning or resenting a man who refuses to commit. Just remember you have a choice to be happy and with a man who doesn’t fight you to move forward. It should never be a fight.
Post # 3
@NickiBee: That is so awesome. I actually read your walk post recently and always hoped everything worked out for you. Glad to hear you found someone that makes you happy. What a great message for the New Year ;).
Happy New Year!
Post # 4
LOVE this post! So happy you found someone who can’t wait to marry you!
Post # 5
@NickiBee: I am SO happy for you!! It sounds like you made the right decision and are living life with no regrets (the only way to live, in my opinion 😉 ). Congratulations to you!
Post # 6
To @NickiBee: Awesome post !!
CONGRATULATIONS on your life… sounds like things have worked out very well… FOR THE BETTER
Sometimes pulling the plug, can indeed be the best solution
Leaving & Starting Over is NEVER easy (I did it in my 40s)… it can certainly be easier tho the younger one is…
Sounds like you’ve met a WONDERFUL man… but better than what you had previously
Sometimes we have blinders on when inside a bad relationship, and cannot truly see how bad things truly were until we get out and move onto something much better
We somehow feel that clinging to the past and the “time that we’ve invested” is more important than our TRUE HAPPINESS
BRAVO to you for realizing that
Hopefully your words here will help more women realize they “need not settle” for anything less.
They truly DESERVE more.
I wish you much continued happiness… and thanks for sharing your life journey as an inspiration to others…
As you say there should be “no fight”… a healthy relationship flows a lot easier.
Post # 7
🙂 This is so excellent to read. It sounds like you absolutely made the right decision and now you have the relationship you deserve! I wish you all the best in your 30s. So far, they have been my favourite decade!
Post # 8
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@NickiBee: That is so profound and so wonderful for you to share this insight one year later. I have no doubt you will be an inspiration to someone else that can learn from your wisdom and remember that there is green grass on the other side. They have only to believe that they can achieve it and they will.
Congratulatins on your new wonderful, happy, and healthy relationship and I wish you both a very Happy and Exciting New Year!
Post # 9
I’m glad you shared an update and am so happy that making the hard choice has gone the right way for you. All the best in your new relationship!
Post # 10
@NickiBee: You are wonderful! Thank you for the update!
Post # 11
@NickiBee: Really, it was almost a year ago?!? I remember reading that post right after you made it. Time flies!
I’m so happy to hear that you’re doing well and that you’ve found someone who is completely smitten with you! You deserve it, Nicki! I’m so very glad you shared this update and think it’s definitely inspiring to waiting bees. Hope to see you around here when you’re ready to be around more often 🙂
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@This Time Round: thank you! Your insight in the past has helped me see you can find better and my current relationship is so much healthier and fulfilling. There is no looking back.
Starting over was no piece of cake but it was definitely the right decision once I removed the blinders. It’s amazing how differently things look after the fact.
@VikingPrincess: thank you! You’re sweet and I hope to one day see a happy update thread from you in the future. You deserve it.
@bluefrog33: thank you! I was actually looking back at my previous threads today and it was a total ‘what was I thinking?’ Moment, so I had to update. 🙂
@ComputerLove06: I really hope it does inspire someone else, there were plenty of posts here that inspired me. I definitely felt the need to pay it forward.
Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement and I wish everyone a happy new year!
Post # 14
Good for you! I had a similar experience. Finally decided to not put up with b.s. in my future relationships and soon met my husband!
Post # 15
@NickiBee: I loved your story! I have a similar story and walking away led me straight to my awesome FI! I cant wait to hear about all the good things in store for you in 2014!
Post # 16
@NickiBee: I’m so happy to see your update and glad that you’re in a better place!!! I hope you come around here more often!