Post # 1
So Fiance and me are eloping next week. I didnt want all of the fuss of a big day and just wanted it to be about ‘us’. Im nearly 40 years old and Fiance has been married before so it just seemed the most natural thing in the world to go for.
However – The closer i am getting to the day, the more petrified im getting in telling my parents. Should i tell them before the day or after? Before IMO will just ruin my whole plan, but i dont want to upset them completely either. I was never going to get married in their eyes anyway so im thinking whats the big deal anyway!
All this fuss….goodness!!
Post # 3
I would tell them beforehand, just to avoid possible hurt feelings afterwards. I know my parents would be devastated if I got married without them at least knowing about it ahead of time, and that sort of hurt can cause a lot of drama and take a lot of time to get past. You obviously know your relationship with your parents better than I do, but I know mine would take a really long time to forgive me for getting married without telling them first.
Post # 4
However, be prepared for how their response can impact your feelings/decisions…
Hope everything works out. Good Luck!