Post # 1
See details here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/moh-issue-how-would-you-deal-with-this-help-please#post-7162585.
This has been pretty crushing to me, but after trying to resolve things a few times, and being told “no thanks” I’ve decided to sadly, move on. If this Maid/Matron of Honor comes around and apologizes, etc, I may welcome her back in to the bridal party after some long talks, but not as Maid/Matron of Honor.
So- creative FUN ways to ask my new MOH? I don’t want her to feel like “runner up” and she really has been the most helpful through every part of this. My original Maid/Matron of Honor, I sent flowers with “Will you be my maid of honor?” on them. So that’s a no go. I want my new Maid/Matron of Honor to feel valued and not like a runner up, because she really has been totally amazing!
Post # 3
@Jw1724: I’d take her out to lunch and gift her some sort of gift with a card. I wouldnt just give it to her because you may want time to express that she really isnt second choice.
Theres little rings/necklaces with knots. You could put a card in it and say “will you be my Maid/Matron of Honor and help me tie the knot?”
Post # 4
@SparkleBee11: I gave my bp ring pops in boxes that said now it’s my turn to pop the question. For my maid and matron of honor I have them diamond ring keychains in a jewelry box that said the same. I asked one of my BM’s a few montHs after ther rest of the bridal party due to one of my BMs having to decide to drop out of the wedding (her hubby just found out his cancer is back 🙁 ) and honestly the Bridesmaid or Best Man that I asked didn’t even think twice about it. So I wouldn’t stress too much about that part.