Post # 1
I need a lot of good energy sent my way. I just found out that my uncle (dad’s youngest brother) needs a liver transplant ASAP. He’s been off and on pretty sick for a few years, first complications from a chronic disease, then more sickness due to his weakened immune system. But it’s all been treated with medication so far, and not so severe that he’s been in hospital or anything this whole time. Basically, it’s likely that the medication has destroyed his liver. My cousin (his son) looks like a promising match to donate part of his liver…so hopefully all the tests are positive and the surgery can happen in a few weeks. But I can barely even stand thinking about having them both undergoing major surgery simultaneously. And I know the prognosis for this surgery is generally pretty good, but that’s not helping me feel less worried and scared. And I’m really worried about my aunt…I can’t even imagine sitting in a hospital waiting room while both my husband and my son are under anesthesia.
And, in addition to them, I’m really worried about my dad and the stress of both the surgeries and the wedding. I talked to him today about postponing the wedding b/c the surgery will be 3 mos before the wedding, and my dad will likely stay with him for a couple weeks afterward and I just don’t know how he’s going to handle all of this emotional and physical stress (BTW, my uncle is in India so there’s lots of travel and LD communication as well). My parents are both contributing a lot of time and energy to the planning of the wedding, especially b/c I’m way out here on the other side of the country. He said he appreciates the thought but he thinks it’s more hassle to try to change things at this point. If all goes well my cousin should certainly be recovered and my uncle will be getting stronger by the time the wedding rolls around…but it just feels like so much strain on everyone (and really everyone in my extended family on my dad’s side is helping/involved one way or another). I feel kind of guilty as well..and so helpless.
Anyway, I guess this is more just to share and try to ask for some positive vibes sent our way.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry! I’m sure things will go well. Lots of good wishes going you and your family’s way!
Post # 4
omg… lots and lots of hugs for you and your family!! i’ll keep your uncle and cousin in my thoughts today. please keep us updated on how they are doing. don’t feel guilty – your wedding will be something everyone can use as a goal to look forward to. i’m sure your extended family is helping/involved because they want to contribute to your big day – not as a burden.
Post # 5
Hope that all will go great with your relatives and the possible transplant goes wonderful. Sending good thoughts and positive energy your way! Don’t feel bad about wedding planning now, the family needs a bright spot of joy and your uncle might actually be looking forward to attending such a happy day surrounded by family at your wedding. It’s a GOOD thing..
again, nothing but hive hugs your way! (((((fizicsgirl and family))))))
Post # 6
Good luck with everything! What a difficult situation to be in. I agree with Bellenga–your family will look forward to a wedding! It may even help them heal a little faster knowing that there is something big for them to attend.
Post # 7
sending tons of hugs your way…
Post # 8
Big (((((Hugs))))) to you & sending prayers & positive thoughts to you & your family. I am all to familiar with liver transplants & all that entails (from ex-FI). It is scary but it is also a procedure that once completed can completely change your uncle’s life for the better.
Post # 9
Sending tons of hugs and positive vibes your way!
Post # 10
Thanks everyone so much for the wonderful thoughts and wishes!
I guess I should add that this will almost definitely mean my aunt and uncle won’t be able to travel from India, and very likely also my grandparents since they’d need my aunt and uncle to help them on the journey. So another thing that’s making me sad is getting married without them. I actually had been planning to ask my aunt to do a reading during the ceremony (she’s not a blood relative, but I was 3 when they got married and she’s always treated me and my sister like the daughters she never had). Even from across the world she’s reached out to my FI and always talks to him on the phone when I’m there visiting. I was so looking forward to their finally meeting and having her be a part of our getting married. If anyone has thoughts on how to incorporate them from far away I’d love to hear them.
Post # 11
Oh no, that is a long way to travel after surgery. And maybe the surgery is now an extra expense. So sorry. I guess it all depends on how much it means to have them there. If you postponed how long would you have to postpone? If it’s a matter of a couple of months, that might be OK. But if it’s much longer than that, I think if it was me, I would still have the wedding, even though it would be a bummer not to have them there. But your family situation might be different.
Good luck. Please let us know how your family makes out.
Post # 12
I’m wishing you and your family the best possible outcomes. Hopefully, he’ll be getting this done at one of the best medical centers in India and things will go really smoothly. In the meantime, try not to worry too much (if you can). It sounds like you have a wonderful family.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry you are going through this, but it sounds like you have a strong and close family…I’m sending good thoughts your way and hope that everything turns out well!
Post # 14
Would it be possible for them to have access to Skype (or something similar) and for you to have a laptop at your reception where you could get to connect on your wedding day? Maybe even in just a private room with you & your (soon-to-be) husband to get to see & talk to them for a few minutes on your wedding day? If not, perhaps you could ask them to write out their wedding wishes & have your dad (if it’s not too difficult on him) read them at your reception.
Post # 15
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Awwww, my thoughts are with you and your family. Big bee ((((hugs))))!
Post # 16
Sending your family nothing but hugs. Please keep us posted as to how things turn out.