Post # 1
I have 2 weeksish until the wedding and I just don’t care anymore. the one thing I always wanted for my wedding was to be surrounded by my favorite friends and to have it someplace cool- like a mountain or a camp where all those friends could hang out. Not a bunch of coworkers and friends of my parents, but something fun and relaxed and warm. Well, I live in a crappy little city that the only thing good about living here the last 3 years is that I met my fiance. We are having the wedding in this crappy little city only becuase his friends can’t afford to go somehwere and my friends, who don’t live here, should all be able to afford to travel. so, now that the wedding is in 2 weeks, all the rsvps are back and no one that matters to me is coming. My fiance is really sweet and kept adding all these people he kind of knows to the guest list because he thought that what i wanted is the big wedding, but i didn’t want big, i just wanted my friends. So, now I’m getting a room full of people that i don’t really care about in a crappy city that i absolutely can’t stand living in and i’m feeling very unspecial and unloved. i know, marrying the man i love, give the people that are coming a great party, its your wedding day blah blah blah, and i’m very excited and happy about all that, but it still hurts when no one wants to come to your party and not only is it a party, its the biggest party i’ll ever throw, and now, when theres a billion things that need to get done,couldnt’ care less. ok, pity party over
Post # 3
Aw, I’m so sorry! I can imagine how much of a bummer that is. I’d never tell you you’re wrong for feeling as low as you do, I just hope you end up having a wonderful time anyway. I hope it ends up being a special night for you both. I’d just pretend my new husband and I were the only ones there! I obviously don’t know the situation, but I’m sure the people that couldn’t make it still love you, its just unfortunate that they can’t make the trip. Will you have family there?
Post # 4
I understand how you’re feeling. There have been issues that upset me too but I’m trying to stay focused on the important stuff. Whenever I think of how useless and rude his sisters have been (an basically made themselves bridesmaids) I wipe that thought from my mind and focus on how excited my little daughter is about this big party, the songs I picked for her to dance to, the vows I will share with my new husband, and the honeymoon! Try to focus less on the crappie stuff, like your guest list, and focus on something that really makes you feel good—like the look in his eyes when he sees you walk up the aisle :o)
Post # 5
My guests who rsvp live 3,000 miles away and are my fiance’s family and friends. My friends and family who live a lot closer… most of them wont be comeing LOL… People are coming out the woodwork for my fiance’ so it makes me feel angry toward my friends and family for not putting fourth the effort even after we gave 1 year notice.
I keep my focuse on the honeymoon 🙂 and meeting his family and friends. I dont blame you for shutting down and feeling a bit dissapointed 🙁 The way Im looking at it… the people who truly care about you and your fiance’ are the ONES that will show up. When I was crying that my sister might not be coming my fiance’ reminded me that HE will be there 🙂 and for some reason it made me feel much better.
This is you and your fiance’s day dont let ANYONE take that away from you guys, its not worth it.
I hope that everything goes great 🙂
Post # 6
That sounds terrible. I’d be upset too! Talk to your fiance and make sure he knows how you’re feeling about it (and so he doesn’t invite any more last minute guests).
As far as things that need to get done, just pick the ones that you care about. And if the answer is truely that you don’t care, have someone else do it (BMs, FH, or some of those friends of his that are hanging around the city).
Good luck and I hope you have a wonderful day and an even better lifetime with your FH!
Post # 7
I agree with mtbutterflyrose, the people who really care about you will be there no matter what! I know it’s really hard and I’m sure you’re sick of hearing it but try to be thankful for the people who are going, and focus on the fact you are marrying the man you love. Try to focus on the positive because if you dwell on the people who can’t make it you are going to ruin it for yourself.