Post # 1
I love my husband, and when we got married I knew that his job and friends were very important to him. I respect this, but every once in a while it drives me nuts and so I just need to vent.
We’re heading to one of his friend’s cottage for the weekend and leaving right from work tomorrow. Last night he got home from work with just enough time to eat the dinner I had made and then head out to hockey. Tonight after work he has plans to see friends and won’t be home until late.
I think it’s great that he’s into fitness and seeing his friends… but there are certain chores associated with going away for the weekend. Last night I cut the grass since it already looks overgrown and couldn’t wait until after the weekend. Tonight I need to pack for the weekend and go buy groceries since we are supposed to bring 1 lunch and 1 dinner.
I’m annoyed because these types of things always fall to me. He’d be ok just leaving the lawn and showing up with minimal food. To make matters worse, I am a little over 5 months pregnant and find all I want to do after work is relax so that’s probably why I’m feeling so bitter about having to do these errands while he’s out having fun so we can hang out with his friends again this weekend. Thanks for listening 🙂
Post # 3
@RunningGal: I can understand your frustration. And being pregnant on top of it! Wow! But just know you’ll cherish all the times spent with friends and having fun and sometimes chores won’t get done and it’s not a big deal.
That’s great that he still does hockey and hangs out with his friends. There will be a day when that kind of stuff will slow down so enjoy it for now 🙂
Maybe while he’s out with friends ask him to pick up some groceries on the way home!
Post # 4
I find making a list for my husband helps a lot. We have an app that we share (it’s called Cozi if you have iPhones). We can both see lists that we make. We have our own to-dos, then grocery lists, etc. I’ll remind him that *these things* on his list need to be done before we leave and just leave it up to him. Then there’s shopping. “So when are we going grocery shopping? Think you could stop on your way home so I could get the house clean, or do you want to stay home and clean and I’ll go shopping while you’re out with your friends?”
If once he’s aware of what you’re actually doing he still slips out of the house for his “me-time” it’s time for a conversation about the responsibilities of being in an adult relationship.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies. My DH is almost 37 so sometimes I get a bit shocked he hasn’t grown out of this by now. I guess that’s just the way he is and there are lots of benefits to enjoying life and not worrying too much about all these responsbilities.
For tonight, I think I will suggest that it would help me out a lot if he could get the groceries on his way home. Thanks again for listening 🙂