- 7 years ago
I would first talk with your husband about all possibly options and what he & you think will work best… ie the other office. Your DH may prefer the commute with you b/c he can be with you and know you’re safe.
I think the first thing I would try to push for is working from home… who knows, maybe you could keep working there from home after the baby’s born so you still have the 2nd income AND you can be home as mommy.
Then if it’s just not possible, you can look at moving to the other office OR even getting another job?
But definitely talk out all options with DH first… maybe even sit down and get down on paper time savings, $$ savings, etc, with each possible option.
Wow. I couldn’t imagine it taking me 40 hours for a 30 mile drive or so. Bless your heart.
I would be cautious of speaking with your boss again — in fear of your boss telling you to stay home “permantley”. Maybe when you meet with your DR. discuss that you’re still extremely sick almost every day and maybe they can try some other type of medication?
Have you spoke with FH about switching locations and no longer commuting together? how does he feel about it? If all else fails you’ll have no choice but to talk with your boss again. What type of company do you work for?
I don’t think you should rule out looking for another job just because you are pregnant. Also, discuss with your boss working from home, and see what he says
I’d do both. Is your boss an approachable, reasonable person? If you can have an open dialogue with him/her let them know the options you’ve been considering and see what they say. It’s possible that you can come up with a reasonable compromise. Good luck. That sounds terrible 🙁
Thanks all. My DH is willing to do anything that makes me feel better. We tried taking the train and was going to suck up the cost for the time being but it provided no relief since the train stops every 10 mins or so.
I really can’t leave yet, my company offers a paid maternity for 13 weeks which is great, and you have to be employed for a year at most places to recieve a leave and be covered and job protected.
I work at an investment company, they promote work/life balance but they don’t really IMO.
I actually see a high risk and my normal dr and I just happen to be seeing my high risk this week so I am going to get her take on it and see what she thinks I should do then go from there.
Thanks all for your great advice!
Oh, PP has a good point. I’d look for a new job as well. It can’t hurt. My company has hired people that were 4+ months pregnant. The drawback was that they were only given 6 wks of maternity leave as they weren’t entitled to FMLA.
Thanks! He is approachable but he has no back bone. He knows my commute sucks and I know he feels for me but in other sense he just wants me to do my job and make his life easier.
The other issue is that we have about 5 other girls who are expecting around the same time I am, they don’t work in my specific group and my boss doesn’t manage them but they work in the same area that I do. They all have a short commute to work since they live in the City though, but still I don’t think he will want to make it seem like special treatement to me.
When I asked him about the work from home, he wanted to give it to me, but he had to go and ask other managers ( managers who weren’t even my managers) what they thought before he gave me an answer. I had orginally asked for every Fri and I guess from the feedback he got from other managers he came back with every OTHER Friday, I mean I didn’t agrue it since I was just happy to get anything, but it still sucked.
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