Post # 1
I’m too shy to ask anyone else about this so I’m asking here where I can hopefully get some helpful answers. my jaw gets really sore when I give BJs. it’s always been that way so it doesn’t matter what size the guy is, but I feel really bad because now I’m with my FH and I rarely give him BJs because my jaw gets sore pretty quickly. does this happen with anyone else and how do you deal with it?
Post # 3
Use your hand as well as your mouth. This will give your jaw a bit of a break.
Afterwards, put your jaw through its range of motion a few times to keep it loose (mine can lock up and stay sore for days if I don’t do this!)
Post # 4
@bummbledbee: You could have a TMJ problem, but it would be awkward to tell a dr why you want to be checked for it lol. Seriously, that could be a part of it. I agree, use your hand to take a break and also change postions so your head is not at an uncomfortable angle. I find that can really be a part of jaw fatigue. Your FH would not be happy to know that it’s painful for you to pleasure him, so he may just have to be understanding and be happy with a little bj. Another option is to use your hand for the majority and just put the tip of him in your mouth. He’ll still get the visual and a lot of the sensation, but way easier on you.
I’ve also heard men use the excuse of a tired mouth and sore jaw for not going down on women and I think that’s often just an excuse. I’ve never had the experience of doing that with a woman, but it’s hard to believe it’s more “athletic” than being with a man. If you like giving him bjs, you must be disappointed that it hurts. Try some of the above options…I would hate not to be able to do this for my guy.
Post # 5
I suffer from some type of TMJ, and I grind/clench my teeth every night, and I have to wear a special nightguard nightly to prevent it from destroying my teeth (more than it already has 🙁 ) and I choose not to chew gum anymore because it just aggravates my already exhausted jaw from grinding and just chewing food during the day. Any time I need to have my mouth open for an extended period— even for a filling at the dentist– the muslces in my jaw tense up so badly it takes days and days of a heating pad, advil, and just waiting. It’s awful. So I totally understand your plight. Luckily SO is very understanding and really appreciates them when I do try to make an effort (even if it’s only for a short period of time and on special occaisons).
Post # 6
I have the same problem my jaw will get very sore very quickly definitely use your hands too going back and forth between the two helps a lot and he actually likes it better that way so thank goodness for that, you will find a system that works for you on how often to switch and what position works best but also don’t be afraid to tell him about it he should be understanding and I am sure open to trying new ways to do it so that it is easier on you, turn it into something that is fun for both of you
Post # 7
you are putting to much pressure on you jaw, have him help. relax your mouth and have him help you move your head up and down. It gives you both a better experiance.
Post # 8
like some have said here use your hands and tongue more and one thing ive found that works with the big thick guys is to lay on the bed on your back with your head hanging off the edge, something about the angle allows for a lot easier and deeper oral and it can be a fun change.
Post # 9
There is a “blow job friendly” position.
I work in a porn and sex toy store, so I get paid to have porn on in the background all day..haha.
Basically do it lying down. So have your SO lie on his side, and lie down on your side facing him. Just shift down so you’re at eye level with his penis, and put a pillow under your head. That way your neck is supported, and you don’t have to move your head as much. And just completely relax your jaw muscles.
Post # 10
@the_future_mrs: wow that sounds like a fun job, im sure you must have a lot of stories.
Post # 11
thank you for the suggestions everyone! I will try and modify our position and use my hands more and maybe that will help. I dont’ love giving bjs but I give them because i know my FH likes them. I feel bad though because I rarely give them anymore due to the jaw pain!
@the_future_mrs: you’re a great resource! Thank you for helping me. That must be a fun and interesting job!