- 4 years ago
Hello, I’m just looking for some advice. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years, been living together for a year. When we moved in, we vaguely talked about the future, and he said in any relationship he wouldn’t want to get engaged till 3 years together. I understood, so we moved in. Since we moved in, I’ve talked to him several times about how I feel he never really talks about our future. It was always, well when I get married, or if I have kids, never we or us. I said that I understood that he doesn’t want to get engaged till 3 years, but that I feel we’re old enough (I’m 24, he’s 28) to at least know at this point whether this is forever, and be able to discuss the future and not talk about ifs or generalizations. He has mentioned that he thinks I should be dedicated to him and want to be with him forever even if he doesn’t want marriage (which he said he does). I guess he wants me to say that I’ll be with him forever regardless of marriage. I do love him, and I wouldn’t be considering marriage if I didn’t want to be with him forever. However, I’m not sure that I can say what he wants me to, because marriage is important to me, and if he wants me to act like it’s not, well I can’t. I don’t know, anyone been in a similar situation?