- 3 years ago
Sorry in advance if this post is long. So a little more than a year ago, I met someone at work who I thought was really nice. We talked randomly at work for almost 2 months before he told me had a gf. I was a little surprised since he didn’t act like he had a gf but let it go since he and I were just friends. I was training for a half marathon and he offered to run with me after work. We’d also randomly eat together and hang out. I slowly started liking him but knew he had a gf so I never said anyhting. Last April, he and I went out and he confessed he had feelings for me (at that point he was engaged). I was confused as to why he was professing all this when he was engaged. I got upset and figured he ruined our friendship. Plus, I liked him at that point. So I was mad he put himself in that situation. We talked about it and agreed to just stay friends since he’s engaged. We’d still talk all the time and meet up at work for coffee breaks. So about once a month (since April), it’d hit me that we liked each other and I’d get upset that we weren’t together. He clearly wasn’t 100% happy in his other relationship and I thought it was unfair of him to have his cake and eat it too. I didn’t want to just be some random girl that he could hang out with since I knew he had feelings for me. I didn’t understand why he still chose to be engaged when it wasn’t working.
So fast forward to now and not much as changed. I found out he broke off his engagement with her and she’s moving out. They are giving it one more try to see if they can save the relationship. I’m just tired of the whole thing. I know I shouldn’t have feelings for someone in a relationship. I know I shouldn’t have hung out with someone who was in relationship. I realize I’m not 100% innocent in all this, but I knew we were just friends. And I know I would have shut up and never said anything if he didn’t confess his feelings for me. He keeps apologizing for dragging me into this. I’m mad at myself for developing feelings. I fell like an idiot for him.
I guess I just need advice in case anyone has ever been in something like this. How did you handle it? I know the smartest thing would be to completely cut him off. It’s just that over the year, we’ve become really good friends and I’m having a hard time accepting that I’ll lose that.