(Closed) need advice about a friend! (long)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
368 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry this is happening. It sounds like you chose the people closest to you, which makes sense. She is mad because she asked you, and expected to be asked in return. She was most likely reacting to this situation, and not soemthing else. Some people think if your asked to be in their WP, you have to return the favor. Plently of girls come one here angry/confused/sad about this same issue. It is your wedding and your choice. It sounds like your not as close as she thinks you are. You can’t do much but tell her your sorry you didn’t choose her to be in your WP. Try to keep the friendship you have with her.

Post # 4
Member
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this extra stress!  I agree with what lostinthemission said.  She may just think that you are obligated to ask her since she asked you. Some people are very sensitive about that, but you have no reason to feel guilty.  You are doing mostly family, with one friend.  I am having all friends in my wedding party (6 girls) and I know that several of them will not ask me to be in their wedding when they get married someday, due to their large families!  I, on the other hand, do not have sisters or cousins, and FI is an only child.  So don’t feel bad, once she calms down you can explain to her that while you value her friendship, you’re really trying to stick with just family and one friend… and seeing that she’s getting married too, you just wanted to lessen her stress!

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