- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
I need a little advice on a coworker and how to handle the situation.
So background story: I work in retail, as a supervisor position. Ive been with the company 5 years and have been asked to move up to management many times. I always choose to stay in my full-time supervisor position because I am also a full-time student. This doesn’t stop management from using me like part of management which I’m fine with and I like actually. It keeps me busy but at my own hours and pace.
I had been a transfer from another state who quickly moved up because of my knowledge of the company and working perviously at very prestigious stores. This caused drama with a lot of the women I worked with because I passed them by so quickly.. when many are fighting to move up. Eventually everyone got over it once they realized that I wasn’t some newbie and that I am very good at my job.
However, one girl in particular who I thought I had no issues with went deliberately out of her way to try and get me in trouble. I paid no mind to it and wasn’t in trouble at all because what the girl had accused me of didn’t actually happen. I never made the girl aware of me knowing she had accused me of it and just continued on as usual. (Okay I may have been colder towards her than usual at first but I’m a forgiving person so eventually that wore off.)
Fast forward to 8 months later: Present day: A semi-close coworker of mine mentioned to me today that this same girl had been saying awful things behind my back. That I couldn’t be trusted, that I go out of my way to screw people over and even so far as to say I was talking crap about her and her boyfriend moving in together. None of this is true of course. I had never said a bad word about her or her boyfriend seeing as I don’t know her or him. The only thing I can remember saying was asking her if they had found a house and she said no and then a couple weeks later she had come up to me to tell me they found a house and put an offer in. I had been genuinely excited for her and expressed.
Also work wise, I have no one to “screw over” considering I am the only full-time staff member that isnt part of management and like I stated above, I don’t want to join the management team because I’m finishing school up. Nor have I given her or anyone else any reason not to trust me. I generally keep to myself at work or confide in my one close coworker.
I just need to know how I should handle the situation. I am not okay whatsoever with her saying things behind my back to demean me or bring down my integrity. I’ve always worked very hard at my job. I’m not sure how to go about it though on whether I should just let it all go or if maybe its time I confront her.
If I confronted her, I wouldn’t do it meanly because she tends to cry quite often at work over remedial things like having to stay late etc. I would just tell her I heard she was saying impolite things about me and I’d really appreciate it if she put a stop to it.
Or if I should take it up with management and let them resolve it. Yes this would save my bum from getting in any hot water if her waterworks started going off but I’m not a tattle-tale and as far as I see it I’m an adult, I don’t need others solving my issues.
ETA: She is only 19 years old and I’m not stating that all 19 year olds are dramatic and over emotional but many tend to be and it makes me hesitant even confronting the issue because of her age and the growing up she has left to do.
Also, I think the only reason I’m letting this bother me is because I work at a relatively small store now. Say, 15 girls total but you see maybe 5 a day. Things go around and I just don’t want her bad-mouthing to follow me when none of it holds any truth.