(Closed) Need advice about the mother of the bride…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Does you mother have valid reasons for this?

The only thing you can do is work with your Fi and plan your wedding. My Mom didn’t agree with my engagement and it was stressful for a while there. You don’t have to like it but I think your mom is supporting you the best way she knows how even if she doesn’t like or agree with your choices.

My mother and I were touch and go and she reach the point where she finally come around. As an adult I felt like she didn’t need to approve of my choices but just respect the fact that I’m an adult and can make my own choices. 

Again advice you probably seen around the bee but no one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you. While I’m sure it nice to have their company they ultimately aren’t essential and need for you to make choices and plan your wedding.

I hope your Mom comes around a bit more, and good luck. Perhaps invite your inlaws or friends.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Kdiaz824:  I’m on the same boat :-(. My mom really likes my FI, but she’s use to dating d-bags that she thinks all guys are liars. There’s things that my FI says and she doesn’t believe, which is ridiculous because I know its the truth because I’m there. His dad is dying from a disease he has. He has good days and bad days. Just because she seen him working in his garden on a video, she said he’s lying about his dad dying. She hasn’t met his parents. I obviously have. She doesn’t believe we are getting married, moving… she says its all talk. So I am not telling her anything or including her in any of my plans. I’ll do everything alone. It sucks, but why want people’s help if they are not going to support you from the beginning. And she’s causing a lot of drama in our rekationship. FI don’t argue about, we’re fine, but its just stressful and frustrating to deal with. Good luck and I hope things get better for you. 

Post # 6
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4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have any advise, but just wanted to send “hugs” your way. Hope things get better for you.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Kdiaz824:  I completely understand your feelings. I was already thinking, if I don’t invite my mother then why would I invite her side of the family if she’s not there. So I can’t do that. I wouldn’t mind eloping, but my FI doesn’t want to cheat my dad out of having a wedding. My dad is tradition that way. Its always something, isn’t it? lol. My FI is an ex-marine, has a BA in microbiology and is a brazilian jui jistu fighter. But my mom still has negative things to say. I decided to invite my mom, but I won’t include her in my planning. Maybe if you don’t include them and just do it yourself, hopefully they will see that and thrn start offering their help. Don’t even discuss anything wedding related to them. 

Post # 9
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4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Why is your mom in charge of decorations?  That seems really odd to me….

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Kdiaz824:  If she hasn’t done that yet you might want to take the job back from her!

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