Post # 1
I am confused and would appreciate some opinions.
My FI and I have been together 10 years. We have been through everything (and I mean everything) there has not been a drama that we have not endured. Now we decided to get married and show people we are not going to be apart ever again.
Meanwhile, we were making a guest list and realized that maybe we don’t want to spend the money to feed and entertain people who were not here for us.
He has not spoken to his sister in a year because she was rude to me. His father has not taken any interest in us recently. My FI is currently living out of the city and will be home soon but his dad has not called to see how we are doing. Neither has anyone else except his mother.
Most of my friends are really just not happy for me or supportive and I don’t want to stand up in front of people who are hypocrites. I only have my mom here that I would care to have by my side. My sister and I are not close and my dad has passed.
Do we just have something tiny here and invite 5 people?! Or do we do a wedding in Jamaica or something?
I just want to wear a dress and celebrate our relationship. But where and with who?
what would you do?
Post # 3
This is a big reason why SO and I are semi-eloping. I want the pretty dress, the pictures and my FI. That’s it. Talk to you FI about it, you can plan something beautiful where you live or abroad. Whatever your heart desires.
I typically don’t like weddings anyway. I feel like I am the one getting married, yet most decisions are made with what the guests would like, or being a good host. Eff that. lol I really don’t care if Aunt Martha doesn’t like the chicken or if cousin Susie is pleased with our favors.
Post # 4
Thank you! I want the same thing as you. We are leaning towards a DW wedding but part of me doesn’t care to even invite our moms and just be together.
Post # 5
@sablonde: I hear ya sister! My FI and I have gone through a lot to be together and there were tons of people along the way who didn’t support us during those times. That’s why we’re eloping. Just us. We’ll send out an announcement afterwards. Those who care will congratulate us… I’ve learned it’s about the marriage, not the wedding. Celebrate your love how you see fit 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
DW or elope with just the closest people you want there.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@sablonde: My parents divorced and my father got re-married a year later. The divorce was an ugly one with everyone taking sides. My father wasn’t left with many friends or family who supported his new union, so he eloped on a cruise ship with only his mom and his FI’s parents and best friend in attendance.
Do whatever YOU feel is right! You don’t need a lot of people around you to make it a wedding. Ask the people you care most about if they want to be a part of it. If they say yes, then plan something that they can attend. (For example, if your mom really wants to be there but she can’t afford to attend a DW in Mexico, don’t elope to Mexico.)
Post # 8
part of me just wants to buy the dress and make it just the two of us.
Post # 9
@sablonde: I think you should just make it the two of you. I would have loved to do that but our situation didn’t allow it. You should just elope with your FI somewhere special to the two of you then I have a lovely meal somewhere awesome.
Would your mom be offended if you eloped?
Post # 10
I don’t think she would be offended but I think she would want to see me get married.