Need advice bees…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MrsDD:  It’s a tough one. You could tell her now becuase if, God forbid, something happens you would have someone who understands you, but you could wait a little longer since it doesn’t seem to bother you to wait some time.

I didn’t tell my BFF until I was just shy of 12 weeks. I told her before we announced it publicly, but I waited until I was in the clear in case I would have lost it. I think she would have helped me out, but I think I would have felt better grieving on my own.

My friend was super excited for me, and perhaps your friend will be too. I would tell her in a few weeks. I don’t want this to sound insensitive, but you can’t tip toe around other’s feelings. Pregnancy and other people becoming pregnant is going to happen, and while she has every right to grieve for al long as she needs to, she should try to be happy for you and know that her time will come too 🙂

Post # 4
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7090 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would wait a few weeks.

Post # 5
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsDD:  I would wait. I am also in a similar situation and I am not going to tell my BFF until a little shy of 12 weeks. I will still tell her before the public. I am afraid she will compare herself to me and feel bad/jealous. I don’t want to make her feel bad and I don’t want negative energy around me anyway. I think it’s traumatic to go through a loss and she needs time to grieve before she can celebrate someone else’s happiness.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would wait.  If anything, take what happened to her as a learning lesson.  So many things could happen between now and 12 weeks and it would be best to save her any additional sadness if possible.

I went through an ectopic in February and each pregnancy, until I became pregnant again, was very very hard to deal with.  Especially during the months we weren’t even allowed to try.

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