(Closed) Need Advice – Bridesmaid vs. Personal Attendent

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?
    Relax - stick with your original decision. : (4 votes)
    67 %
    Add a BM and have brother be GM. : (0 votes)
    Add both BMs and have brother and FI's BIL be GM's. : (2 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I am a little confused… What is a personal attendant? I have never heard of that and don’t really like the way it sounds…

    Post # 5
    Member
    5892 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    ive been the equivalent of a personal attendant before- getting the wedding party where they need to be for photos, getting everyone’s cars ready from the valet, moving luggage around the bridal suite, making sure the welcome baskets are being delivered to the guests’ rooms, reprimanding the front desk when the welcome baskets werent delivered to the guests’ rooms, getting the hotel staff to make it up to the bride by sending champagne to her hotel suite, etc…but this was a job i volunteered for to help my friend.  the idea of ASKING someone to be a personal attendant before irks me. if you want them to be in the wedding party, ask them to be bridesmaids.  it is a much more appreciated role.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Liss: A personal attendant is like a BM but without having to stand up for the bride. A PA usually helps get the bride ready, carry her say purse or repair kit for the day. Help arrange her train/bustle her.  Basically a PA is someone who watches out for the bride and her stuff throughout the day

    Post # 7
    Member
    1314 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    hmm… I want a PA! But I wouldn’t want to be one. lol.

    Post # 8
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    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @FutureMrsMcDermott: Hehe I have one and she will be an awesome one she is very motherly like. So she definately will have my back and my stuff will be safe

    Post # 9
    Member
    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I guess to each his own. I would personally be a little offended if someone asked me to be that… I had thought those responsibilities were the reason for having bridesmaids. I guess it really depends on the person. I’ll be focusing way too much about becoming married to my fiance that all of those little details that a PA wouldn’t seem important to me any way.

    Post # 11
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldnt like to be personal attendant, it sounds like a role that should come with payment lol.. anyway to the OP I wouldnt add anyone now, its too last minute for that IMO

    Post # 13
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    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I guess I’ve been PA for my FI’s friends’ weddings, though they never really labelled me (and some other friends of theirs) as PA, we were so called “unofficial bridesmaids”. At times I did feel crappy for not being an actual bridesmaid at their weddings, but the fact that they would give the unofficial bridesmaids monetary gifts as a token of appreciation made me feel like my effort was recognized and respected. I was actually very grateful to have been able to contribute on their special day. So if you want to make it up to your two roomates, I would recommend that get them some gifts to show them that they are special and meaningful to you, even if they couldn’t be your BM.

    Post # 14
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    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t like the idea of the whole “personal attendant” thing…it doesn’t really seem like an honor position, it seems like you are asking them to work for you at your wedding without any recognition…If I’m not gonna be a bridesmaid I would rather just enjoy the wedding as a guest!

    I have never heard of asking a friend to do that…in my area most of the venues have people that act as your “bridal attendant” the day of, which seems way more appropriate to me.

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