(Closed) Need advice concerning awful FMIL

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I have a similar story, but it’s my father in law that I have to deal with. My husband’s parents didn’t raise him (mom took off and later killed herself, dad was in and out of jail and didn’t reappear until Darling Husband was an adult). We’ve basically been taking care of his deadbeat dad for two years now and yeah…it wears on you! He thinks my husband owes him so much just because he’s his father even though he’s never ACTED like a father. Like your Future Mother-In-Law, he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong.

Honestly, I would tell her beforehand that the dance isn’t happening and it needs to come from your fiance. I tend to be glass half empty after all my experiences with my fabulous Father-In-Law, so I’d worry that if she was caught off guard, she’d make a scene at the wedding. If she knows what’s going to be happening now, she has time to mentally prepare herself. We chose not to have my husband’s father enter with the rest of the parents/grandparents at the wedding and let him know this beforehand – at my urging. My husband wanted it to be a “surprise” but I think it was best to soften the blow.

Post # 3
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

never mind, posted by mistake 

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