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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    DH and I are seriously considering making a HUGE life move and I'd love to hear from anyone in the hive that has done something similar.

    We are both native to our hometowns, have family here, and all our roots are here.

    But - we are ready for something different two.  Both of us would like to start new careers and feel in love with a place we visited a couple years ago.

    Step one in the plan is to revisit the area.  I'm not quite sure how long we should go - but it would be a scouting trip and I 'are we really serious about this' type trip.

    Step two would be to job hunt.  At least one of us would need to find a job before I'd feel comfortable with the move....

    I'd LOVE any and all advice you'd have for me!!!

    Thanks in advance!

     
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    Ashley_B    September 22, 2012  

    A week would be good. Check out houses and apartments, and possible jobs. Get to know the town/city. I moved 13 hrs from my home town 4 years ago, and it was tough at first. But once you and your DH get comfortable, get jobs and make friends you'll be glad you moved! Starting new somewhere can be tough, but worth it :)

     
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    JRL2012    March 30, 2012   PA Wedding in MD :)

    @oracle: I did it for my FI and now we might be doing the same thing together. As scary as it is I think it's really exciting too. I got to know some great new people and love the new location now... Moving again I can only imagine will be great... hears to hoping! Good Luck!

     
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    globalmargaret    August 25, 2012   Alaska

    I moved from the midwest, where I grew up, to Alaska, where I curently live, work, and love every second of it. It is important that finances be in order, and I am glad one of you would be getting a job before you head out. Something that I didn't realize when I took the job here is that though my employer paid for relocation, they didn't do it until after my 3 month probation period. All in all it took about 3000 for me to move the distance, I had a small appartment and found a bigger one when I knew the area better.

    I reccomend looking for groups in the area and asking them questions if you can, I found some local groups for things I was interested (climbing, skiing, knitting, ect.) and they were very helpful in helping me get a feel for the town from an insiders perspective. They also becuase some of my closest friends once I finally did move. Its not easy to move to a new place where you don't know anyone, even though you have you SO its a good idea to branch out as soon as possible.

     
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    Ashley_B    September 22, 2012  

    Thats another good point, save save save!!! Make sure you have money set aside so if you or your hubby cant find a job right away you'll be ok.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    My husband and I moved across the country 2 and a half years ago for his job.  We moved to a place we have never been to before.  For sure make sure to have a job before moving, it took me a year of lookng for find a job after we moved.

    Good luck, a change can be really good!  The only part that is tough for me is not being near family but we don't mind flying so that can be worked around.

     
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    MissEdamame    July 2009  

    We moved out of state - we're both from the same hometown, so our situation was similar. However, we moved so I could attend graduate school. We LOVE our new city. We are close enough that we can drive home for holidays, but we only go home 3-5 times during the year (and only for a weekend at a time).

    Definitely check out the living situation. We made the mistake of not doing our research before first moving here and ended up in an overpriced apartment that was not well-maintained. Try to schedule visits in apartments at a few different areas of the city. Obviously this is different if you plan to buy.

    Good luck! I would suggest at least a long weekend (3-4 days) to scout out the city's potential. 

     
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    Mrs.RDV    September 17, 2011   Canada

    We are in the process of making the decision of doing the same thing. DH would have work, it is just a matter of making that decision of what we want for our future.

    I've been doing lots of research online of the area, jobs, housing. Finding out about activities, groups, rec centers, shopping, restaurants, gyms etc in this town. Definitely save to move as it is expensive and you want to be able to afford to live for a while if one of you isn't working.

    2 years before we were married we moved 15 hours from where we were. He moved about a month ahead of time to get settled into our new place and into his job and make sure it would work out. It was a hard month but we made it through. If we do decide to move this time he would do the same thing again but this time he will probably go 2 months before me and I will go for a visit after a month and check out the area and then if we like it a month later I would move to joing him and if we decided not to go ahead, he would just work another month or two and come home. He works for himself, so it is not a big deal.

    Good luck with your decision, it will be fun and exciting!

     
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    Yup-Did it!  11 years ago.  Coast to Coast!  I checked out everything as much as possible on the web.  Came here with our kids on a scheduled vacation. (Hubby stayed home!)  Scouted out the area, and eventually moved!  Happy to be here!!

     

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