(Closed) Need advice, Dad is making me feel super guilty about wanting to Elope

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sure you’re torn and don’t want to either not have the wedding you and your FI want or hurt your father. Is your father upset about not walking you down the aisle? If you decide to do the hawaiian wedding and celebration in Orlando are you having anything like a reception? Would it make him happy to do something in front of the family like introdce his daughter and new son in law? A special speech?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Would your father be able to look into a Disney cruise instead of Royal Carribean? That way you could still have Disney incorporated into your wedding!
Maybe you could do like a short three day Disney cruise (paid for by your father since he saved up the money, three day cruises are pretty affordable) then go on a honeymoon to Hawaii like you wanted?

Post # 7
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Nautilus217:  I cruise often, and while the Disney line might be a little more expensive, its your wedding. You should be able to make a compromise between your wants & your dad wants – only IF YOU WANT to make those compromises. BUT I wouldn’t throw out your dreams just bc of your dad.

With that said, maybe you could call Disney cruise line & see what can be done, instead of your dad making the decision on what cruise line to go through. Honestly, it’s a little rude that he’s been making all these plans with cruise lines without you saying YES to the idea. Your wedding is in August, which is an off-season. You have plenty of time to plan the wedding and so do your guests. I’d look into the disney cruiseline yourself before scratching it off the list of possibilities. And how long of cruises was your dad looking into? The three night cruises are around $735 out of Port Canaveral (via expedia).

Also, since you were eloping, you obviously aren’t concerned if all your family members show up. You could do the 3 night cruise, those who can attend, will; those who cannot attend, won’t. The end of the day, you’ll fulfill your fathers wishes & you’ll be married – then whisk off to Hawaii.

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