(Closed) Need advice; FI has no groomsman

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

In the UK it is extremely uncommon for the groom to have any attendants other than the best man.  I had never heard of it before joining the bee (and spent a lot of time wondering who all the men were in weddings in movies).

There’s also no rule that he can’t have a “grooms-woman”, his daughter stand up next to him.

Post # 4
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have a similar issue.

My SO has said that he only wants his brother as best man and that’s it.

I am having my cousin (who’s like a sister to me) be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and then i’m asking approximately 6-7 girls to be bridesmaids, pending their availability (some are out of state), financial abitilities, etc. I may probably end up with 4 bridesmaids and the others who are unable to be bridesmaids doing stuff such as scripture readings etc.

So what’s the point, right? I’m asking my brothers and cousins to step up and be groomsmen, and aum they better!

SO doesnt have as many friends as I do and is not sure if he wants his bunch of idiot friends THAT involved other than just attending, oops, did I say that! Embarassed



Post # 5
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Do you have any brothers, cousins, uncles, or friends of yours that you’d be comfortable asking to fill the role of groomsmen?

Post # 6
33 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Fiance is only having a best man, and I will likely have a lot more Bridesmaid or Best Man than one. We are just having the best man and Maid/Matron of Honor walk in, the rest will already be sitting in their place when the wedding starts. At first I thought it would be odd not having an even number, but I would rather have the important people up there with me than to focus on numbers. If you don’t mind having uneven people, you could do something similar. 

Post # 7
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

For a while, it looked like I would have four ladies to FI’s one groomsman and we were OK with it. They would’ve just walked themselves down the aisle. No biggie. And, if he doesn’t want/have anyone, that doesn’t mean you can’t have ladies with you.

Post # 8
380 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My Fiance has the same problem.  No real close friends due to an ex and he has 2 children (ages 5 and 2).  He is asking one of his work buddies to be his Best man and having his son be a groomsman.  (His daughter is going to be the flower girl, while my son (4 yrs old) is walking me down the isle.)

Post # 9
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

if it’s really important that there be guys standing next to him so it looks even… do YOU have any guy friends that are friendly enough with your Fiance that they would be in your wedding?



our wedding party is odd also. he has a best woman, i have a man of honor, and our shared BFF is officiating.


Post # 10
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My poor Fiance is going through something similar. His oldest friend just recently turned into a 13 year old catty school girl and made some pretty rude comments about me. (He’s a pig who thinks women need to be seen and not heard and was afraid I would rub off on his wife because I have my own opinions *gasp*) It put his other mutual friend in an awkward position and long story short, Fiance is down 2 groomsmen. 🙁 He only has a best man. (at least I hope he does, he hasn’t actually asked him yet) I have 4 bridesmaids but I have a Man of Honor as well so they line up as Maid/Matron of Honor, ManOH, Bridesmaid or Best Man, BM. We’re going to ask my brother to be a groomsmen for Fiance so he’ll have 2 and I’ll 4 so we plan on having Maid/Matron of Honor and ManOH walk down together and then Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen, Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen. I hope that makes sense lol. Do you have a nephew, brother or cousin or mutual friend that you could ask?

Post # 11
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Mine’s not having any either. There’s no rule that says he has to.

Post # 12
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My story is much like that of the PPs…Fiance only has two brothers that he wanted to stand up there and nobody else…I, on the other hand, have four sisters, Future Sister-In-Law, and two best friends…so to make things easier, I asked 3 of my best gay friends if they would like to be part of the wedding party, as well as my best friend’s husband, and my sister’s boyfriend…Fiance knows all of them well enough where he felt comfortable with them standing next to him, as long as his brothers were first…I, personally, think things look better when the wedding party is even on both sides, which is why we decided to go this route, but not before making SURE that Fiance didn’t have another guy in mind to stand in his wedding party…

I would suggest thinking about any male friends/relatives you may have that you are close with and that he knows and likes…

Good luck! 🙂

Post # 13
812 posts
Busy bee

Personally I don’t think you need to worry – I’ve been to a wedding where there was one bridesmaid and 8 groomsmen, and it’s common in Scotland for there just to be a best man and X amount of bridesmaids. I think you should do what’d make you happiest

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