Post # 1
I am new to the boards and made an account so that I could get some advice on my current dress dilemma. I bought a dress 2 weeks ago at the insistence of my mom and sister. I loved it at the time and thought it was really pretty, but I didn’t feel ready to make the commitment right then. It was my last day in town, my mom really loved it, and she basically said “lets just order it now” and so we did. That night, a major panic hit me, and I didn’t feel nearly as happy as I thought I would with the decision. The cell phone pictures didn’t look that good, and I kept thinking about my “dream dress.” My dream dress is a Sottero & Midgley that I never found in any bridal salon, despite calling around to at least 10 stores looking for it. I thought that I wanted a semi-fitted lace A-line dress, which is exactly what my dream dress was. Now, 2 weeks after purchasing the other dress, I have found my dream dress in a nearby salon (finally). I don’t know whether I should go try it on just to see if I love it as much in person, or just suck it up and go with my original dress. I’m feeling extremely guilty because my mom bought me the dress and I wish I could just feel confident and happy about it, but I keep having these panic moments where I feel it’s not the right dress. I’m having such a difficult time with the decision and would love some feedback on these two dresses:
the dress that i chose (sorry for the blurry face, can’t risk FI seeing the dress…):
My main concern with it is that I feel that it’s too princessy and too plain. I wanted something elegant, timeless, slighty sexy, and romantic. This dress fits the first 2 categories but not so sure about the other 2.
Here is my dream dress. These photos are from 2 other bees, so this is not me in the dress:
Any thoughts on these 2 dresses ?
Post # 3
I like your dress better than the second one! But you could try it in–you might not like it!
Post # 4
I’d go try it on! You only ordered 2 weeks ago, if you love the 2nd dress it might not be too late to cancel your order. If this were me, there’s NO way I could stop thinking about that other dress until I tried it on. But if you’re absolutely stuck with the first dress it would be a bad idea to try on the other one.
Were you able to try on a similar silhouette at the other salons?
Post # 5
I say try on the dress, as soon as possible and go from there
Post # 6
Thank you for the comments and votes! I have an appointment tomorrow to try on the Sottero gown, so I’m just going to go for it and then decide what to do from there.
@Charliejeorge: I tried on some silhouettes that were similar, but most of them were too fitted to the point where I was uncomfortable. I loved the look of them but not the feel as much. This Sottero dress is not quite as fitted, so I think it would be a good “in between” dress.
I’m not sure if the salon would let me return or exchange my original dress. They do carry Sottero & Midgley, so there is some hope that they would let me exchange.
Post # 7
@cestvrai: that’s great that they carry the same brand, hopefully and exchange won’t be an issue if you find yourself in a bit of a pickle! Good luck, I hope you be the result you want!
Post # 8
I did the same thing with my dress. Went through a bunch of dresses, tried one on, thought I found the one but decided to sleep on it before we went back to order it the next day. Even though we didn’t purchase we had basically made our decision. My mom was thrilled. That night as I looked at the cell phone pictures I started to panic. It didn’t look good and I kind of had a “what was I thinking” thought go over and over in my head.
The next morning we went back to the boutique and I tried it on again. MUCH BETTER. don’t trust cell phone pics. I think this might be half of the reason why salons don’t let you do it…bad for business in so many ways. But a crappy cell phone shot at a crappy angle will make almost any dress look ick.
My guess is there is no way you can try on that gown again? you might get that good feeling if you do. Unless I had MAJOR dress regret I would never purchase a second dress if I found something “better” it’s way too much of an expensive hassle and it’s just a dress. Only if you hate it and it brings you to tears is it worth it to get a new one, imho
Post # 9
I love your dress!! But glad you’re trying on the other dress to see for yourself. 🙂 Best of luck to you!
Post # 10
I understand the feeling/need to try on the second dress. I really prefer the first one. A lot. I have seen the second dress (or one like it) in like three weddings this summer and I am just not impressed. The important thing is how you feel in the dress.
Post # 11
I had bad dress regret, cried myself to sleep every night, and had anxiety attacks every day. I found a new dress which I want to wear everyday, it’s perfect in every way. You’ll never know unless you try on the other dress, especially if you didn’t love the first one in the first place. Go with your gut, it’s your day!
Post # 12
I went to try on the Sottero today! I loved it, but not necessarily *more* than my original dress. I put a poll up with both dresses to get input before making a decision:
Post # 13
First of all I want to say that I like your dress much more than the second one…because your dress is simple but very different in the same time…
on the other hand..there are so many brides nowdays who buy dresses similar to the second one…I have an impression that every other bride has a lace, fitted dress…I actually like dresses like that a lot, and I wanted to get a similar dress myself in the beginning..but then I realized that I want to buy something different..and I did..
Right after I placed an order and got back home I had a panic attack..I realized that I don’t like it that much, that it is not my dream dress..But it was too late to cancel..now, after 3 months I actually love it…and it is very unique (especially the back)..and I didn’t see any brides in this dress…and it makes me happy..
Post # 14
Your dress is absolutely beautiful! If I were tall I would have bought something like that for my ceremony, honestly I’d go with the dress you already have BUT I would go and try on the other one, that way you can really decide for yourself and that way won’t end up regretting it.