Post # 1
So, Mr. Koi and I will have been together a little over two years by the time Christmas rolls around, making this our third Christmas together. We spent the last two together (with his family, spending a little time with mine as well, and getting a little time with just the two of us). This fall, his stepdad is leaving for Bahrain for a year (courtesy of the Navy) and it was decided that they (Mr. Koi, his mom, and his little brother) would go to Bahrain and visit his stepdad for Christmas. I’m totally cool with that. I’m gonna miss him and miss spending Christmas with him but it’s important that he goes and I certainly have no desire to go with them, even if I had been invited. That’s a long ass flight! And my dad was in Bahrain because of the Navy about 20 years ago and says Dubai is far more exciting… but I digress…
Anyway… to the point of the matter.
Since we’re not spending Christmas together, I had the idea in my head that we could give each other our gifts before they leave and Skype on Christmas day (like, noon here on the East Coast, around 7pm in the Middle East) and open our presents together (which is what I did my first birthday we were together for)! But my question is, what the hell do I give him that he can take with him?? It can’t be too big that it’d be inconvenient for him to pack but I tend to lean towards more elaborate gift ideas (like making mini gift baskets and stuff) and I don’t want him to have to unwrap it for customs going into Bahrain and it can’t be something he’d have to declare. Like, maybe this is a bad idea since it isn’t a LDR (anymore) and he’s just gonna be away for a lil bit… like maybe I could just give him something small then the actual gift, or the rest of it, when he comes back… but I dunnnoooooo. I like the idea of doing it together and he’d likely insist on me opening mine but then he’d have nothing and I don’t want that.
Help? Gift ideas? Better plan? I’ll give you a million internet hugs if you’re helpful 🙂 [ok, even if you’re not. I just like hugs :3 ]
Post # 3
um… a photo book thingy? some sort of paper product thing would probably be ok through customs…..
Post # 4
How about sending him something through the mail? Before he ships out. Silly computer posted before i was ready.
This site has alllllllll kinds of advice for sending gifts to loved ones overseas.
Post # 5
@HisLittleRed: wow, that was my idea too 😮
Post # 6
How long is he going for? Darling Husband and I spent last Christmas apart, because I was visiting my parents in Europe and he didn’t have vacation time left. I called him on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. The day I got back, we did our “Christmas Morning” with opening gifts and sitting by the fire place. It was very nice and it didn’t matter that it wasn’t the exact day.
Keep in mind that he’ll probably bring gifts for his family and get gifts from them, too. He will already have lots of stuff to bring to Bahrain and back home. I had to re-pack and put a pair of jeans in my carry on at the check in, because I was over the weight limit.
Post # 7
@HisLittleRed: I wouldn’t send anything by mail if he’s only gone for a short amount of time. With international packages, you just never know when they’ll get there, especially around Christmas time. They could be on the road for a couple of months!
Post # 8
I would just try to Skype or talk on Christmas and then celebrate together when he gets back. With customs I think a wrapped resent would just complicate things too much.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t mail him anything either. For work, I mail a lot of things internationally and it can cost over $100 to mail something over 3 or 4lbs. If he’s gone less than a month, I vote to just wait for him to get back and give him a gift then.
Another idea would be to hide letters in his suitcase or in different outfits that are sweet love notes or christmas cards that he can open as he goes through his things.
Post # 10
@ohmybears48: That’s a cute idea I hadn’t thought of! I do like multi-part/ elaborate things so little love notes or a small little thing or two could work 🙂
Maybe, once I find out how long he’s gonna be gone, I can give him a little card (I do love making handmade cards!) for each day or something…
But I don’t think they have plans set in stone yet. Mr Koi and his little brother are still in the process of getting their passports and his stepdad is still in the States. But I can’t imagine they’d be gone for more than a week. Mr Koi gets bitchy when he has to take time off work and his mom owns her business so she can’t take off a whole lot of time. I don’t think there’s gonna be a lot of gifts to/ from family like AprilJo2011 mentioned. His stepdad is gonna be stationed on the Navy base and the rest of his family all lives within a 10 mile radius here in Virginia so maybe a few souvenirs. Maybe his family will reschedule for when they get back and we can just do it then (I’m always invited to family holiday gatherings)…
I guess I’m overthinking this way too soon! lol. But that’s just how I roll. I like to plan.
Anyway, thanks for the help! It’s always good to have a place to bounce ideas 🙂 And, as promised, a million internet hugs to you all! 🙂