- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Sorry this is a million questions. I’ll try and keep this in some coherent order. We’re really set on having at least the ceremony in the woods. There’s one spot that seems pretty ideal, we hang out there together a lot, it’s absolutely gorgeous, a clearing in the woods right next to a meadow, and it’s only about 6-8 minutes’ walk from the nearest parking lot (I timed it today) That walk is almost all downhill (which of course means it’s uphill on the way back :/) Not very steep though, and it can be taken entirely on dirt paths. The plan is for everyone to convene near the parking lot and all walk together, but that may be another problem to get everyone to be on time.
Is this too far to make my ambulatory but arthritic grandparents walk? I have joint issues myself, and I was a bit tired by the end of the walk back, but I also didn’t pause in the middle for a ceremony. I know they walk as far for other things, but I still feel bad to make them.
We’ll be providing chairs definately for the parents and grandparents (7 total) but do we need to have them for everyone? (~25 people) Everyone else is in their 20’s and in good health. I don’t want to rent chairs, so we’ll be collecting them and setting them there that morning. Should I just put something on the website saying if you need a chair for the ceremony to ask us? We haven’t written the ceremony yet, but I can’t imagine it being a super long one.
Is this too far from a bathroom? The bathroom is near the parking lot. Hopefully nobody leaves in the middle of a ceremony to go to the bathroom unless they really need to…
If it’s during the daytime, but in the shade, do we need lighting? Will decorative lighting (like twinkle lights or candles) even look very good if its fairly bright out? Wouldn’t do real candles in case it’s a fire hazard.
How did you decorate? (if at all) I’d love to see pics! I’m thinking of maybe doing banner/bunting between a few of the trees or hanging flower sconces/pomanders. Is it unethical to nail something to a tree if you take it out later? Or we’ll just arrange the fallen branches somehow. There’s a lot of cool stick altars/shrines around already, but I don’t want to appropriate someone else’s creation.
Did you have music? Was it live or from a stereo? I feel like using an ipod would seem out of place in all that natural beauty. Unfortunately I don’t know anyone who plays the violin, which would be my favorite. My mom plays the flute, but I feel like she’d be busy… being the mother of the bride? Would it be cool to ask her? I’d love to give everyone an instrument (drums and tambourines probably) to play while we march together to the ceremony site. Will that be awesome or just noisy?
Photography- will our ceremony photos all suck if we’re in shade the whole time?
Food- is serving food out there a bad idea? (bugs, wild animals) I was thinking of something like tea sandwiches, lemonade, and finger food, and to give it out in something like kraft boxes or paper bags instead of dealing with paper plates and plastic forks (potentially tacky, wasteful, messy, could blow away, litter) plus we could package it ahead of time in individual servings- really easy to serve, may not even need a table. Is this a good idea? would you feel weird eating this way?
Sorry if this is super long. I’m really in love with all these ideas, I’m just concerned it’s too different and all the guests will be inconvenienced, or we won’t be able to pull it off. What do you think?