- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So one of the better things that happened throughout this wedding planning journey, is it’s made me grow a lot. But sadly, as much as I would change a lot of the ways I handled things, it’s too late at this point. I’m getting married in 32 days and I cannot wait! But there are things bothering me that I hope I can forget about on the day of the wedding and really enjoy myself. So I’m asking for advice as to what I should do until then, and then what I should do on the day of the wedding.
Basically, I wanted a small intimate wedding. My parents offered a budget for it, but the whole thing ending up turning out very funny and not in their favor and it REALLY bothers me now. They live in NJ and my fiance and I have lived in SC ever since we met. He really wanted a wedding in SC since his grandparents wouldn’t be able to travel, and because my grandparents are in Europe, it wouldn’t make a difference to them where the wedding would be. So now my parents are paying for a wedding they have to travel for. But that’s the least of it. The worst part is is I really wanted a smaller intimate wedding surrounded by meaningful people that have made an impact on me and my fiance’s lives. I understood there were some people that “had to get invited” (per my fiance’s mom), but she told us not to worry because they more than likely wouldn’t come. After she almost doubled our guest list, I realized my fiance didn’t know half the people she invited. Had never even heard of them. In addition to that, once all the invitations were mailed out, she recently asked for 2 more because she wanted to invite 2 more families. From work.
I really wanted to avoid the whole having guests at our wedding just because we felt like we had to invite them, and I made the sacrifice of cutting people out, and so did my parents. Not only that, but since the wedding is in SC, most of my parents close friends aren’t coming due to financial restraints. Yet my fiance’s mom is only adding more random people to the guest list.
I feel my parents are paying for a wedding to which their close friends can’t even make it to, and they’ve been working hard this year to save up the money for this wedding, because they didn’t have it in the first place. And it just really REALLY bothers me. Not only are they paying for the majority of the people they don’t know, but it’s people my fiance doesn’t even know, and aside from the whole money aspect of it, it completely took away from the “feeling” of an intimate wedding I would have liked to have.
Any suggestions as to what I can do at this point to get past this so I can enjoy my wedding day?